Yes you're right, she knows how to pull his strings. Shes also very good at using the waterworks to get her way. I never once said or did anything to make her feel like I had an issue with her and H's friendship. When she lied to me I simply wanted to make clear to her that i know she lied and its unacceptable. She then made it point to accuse me of of not being happy with their friendship and then cried to H that she was UPSET and SCARED that I would tell him to cut all ties with her.She sounds toxic and seems to be trying to put a wedge between you and your fiance. She doesn't respect your space. Aslo, your finance shouldn't be her shoulder to cry on. That's unhealthy.
If your husband is accusing you of making these situations going bad, she's influencing him.
I would have a major issue with this.
It was actually at that point I realised how manipulative she is and then did indeed become unhappy with their friendship.
I sometimes wish I had the brains and energy to manipulate and play games the way she does.