Six days ago my husband and I got into an argument about something really stupid. I put a screen (or room divider) infront of our patio doors b/c we don't have blinds or drapes and my husband didn't like it there. I explained to him that it gives some privacy since we don't live in a great neighbourhood and the condo we live in has a shared staircase with our next door neighbours, so when they use it they can see right in the patio doors. Anyway, he didn't like it there and moved it the next morning when we were having our coffee. I told him I like it there, and moved it back. He then moved it again and put his thumb through the material in the process (it's one of those paper-like Japanese style screens). He was yelling and going on about me being paranoid that someone is watching me and that I am crazy, need help, etc. When he broke the screen and stated yelling at me, I walked past one of his guitars and calmly knocked it off its stand. I know this was not smart b/c he immediatly charged at me and pushed me so hard I flew from the dining room into the kitchen. I reached for my phone and he grabbed me and would not let me go and he took my phone away and said he was going to break every phone in the house. I am trying to figure out if this is abuse or just him reacting to me knocking over his guitar. In the past he has only grabbed me 2 other times and one time he grabbed a book out of my hand and threw it against the wall - but he's never hit, slapped, kicked or punched me. I'm not sure what to do. We haven't spoken since it happened. He wanted to make-up shortly after the whole thing but I wouldn't because I felt everything really got out of hand and it wasn't something that we can just say sorry and move on. I feel like he's controlling and always has to get his way - why should he care if I put a screen infront of a door? But this is how he has been since we've lived together. I don't know what to do.