I am 36 yrs old and , have been divorced for 4 years, I have two boys ages 41/2 and 8. I have been dating a man for 1yr. He is 43, and has a son who is 23. We are very compatible and very much in love. My, children spend half of the time with their father and this gives me and my boyfriend free time, we are always together when the boys are not home. Ultimately, I am looking for someone to share my life with, in a married relationship. I have never had an open discussion with my boyfriend about the future of our relationship or how he feels about possible marriage and him living with two young children. I have tried to get him to spend time with me and my kids as a family unit, but he always has excuses and is only around when they are at their dads house. My question is, after a year, is it time to decide if this is the relationship for me? I don't want to seem needy or out to "nab" a husband, therefore I have not started this discussion. I just don't want to "date" this wonderful man who I love for the next ten years.