The Red Pill is a bitter painful experience.
Only slightly less painfull than living under the Blue Pill.
Only slightly less painfull than living under the Blue Pill.
Nope. We had both kids on our lap.Did you give her sex before going to the gym?
Exactly......Letting the shet tests get inside of you, through your boundaries is to be avoided at all costs.
Do you think that will work in reverse? I don't think it is the same when the man is the LDer. For one thing, I give him attention, pats on the bum when he's around, arms around waist in the kitchen, thank-yous when he thinks to take out the garbage, ask how his way went, and so on. He tends to pull away, or get impatient that I ask him questions. I am trying to connect and it seems like all he can do is push away both literally and metaphorically.That was a huge point for me, as well I basically said the same thing to my LD wife and (along with other factors) things have been 1,000 times better since.
Once the LD spouse admits (even to themselves) that a problem exists - and they want to do something about it - then improvements can begin.
I have been on Cloud 9 since our spark and I can see that my wife's self -esteem has picked up. It is contagious.
It's hard for me to relate to that because I have never even thought that way. If my wife sent me porn links, I'd blow a load in my pants.Do you think that will work in reverse? I don't think it is the same when the man is the LDer. For one thing, I give him attention, pats on the bum when he's around, arms around waist in the kitchen, thank-yous when he thinks to take out the garbage, ask how his way went, and so on. He tends to pull away, or get impatient that I ask him questions. I am trying to connect and it seems like all he can do is push away both literally and metaphorically.
Tonight for example, I sent him an email link to a porn site that I found last night and liked (he works away three weeks on and three weeks off). Tonight, he called and didn't even mention it. Finally, I asked, "Did you get my email". Ya. "Well? have you seen it?" No. "Are you interested in what it is?" Well it says big tits. "Well, doesn't that pique your interest?" Well ya, but lots of my friends email me stuff that say things like and they haven't even sent it. It's usually spam. "Uh, ok. But this is from me. Don't you think you could ask?"
ugh. Like pulling teeth. Oh, and btw, I never watched porn until I tried to engage him because I knew he did. Trying here folks! And rapidly losing interest and energy.
So the question is, how do you engage a LD, seemingly uninterested, man that claims to love you?
Believe me, it's hard for me to relate!It's hard for me to relate to that because I have never even thought that way.
Well, I thought I'd at least get a, "Gee baby, what is that you sent me???" or SOMETHING!If my wife sent me porn links, I'd blow a load in my pants.
Thanks for noting that, I must say I was a teensy bit wondering about that. Seemed odd to me. Especially in light of the non-reaction.Yes, Guys always send each other stuff like that as a goof and it means nothing. I rarely even look at it. But from the wife? Entirely different.
Good suggestion. will try it.One suggestion- tell him you want him to help you masturbate with a vibrator. Even if he doesn't get horny and bang you, it will be erotic and he'll be involved.
I've been wondering that myself. Now, how on earth do I pose that question/suggestion? Ugh.Also, has he had his testosterone level checked at the doctor ?
When the moment presents itself (i.e. no excuses), dress in some sexy lingerie, pull him toward you, grab his nuts and plant him a big wet kiss...then tell him how much he turns you on and you want him to take you now. Even if you have to fudge a little, think of it as a test.ugh. Like pulling teeth.
Thanks for the suggestion. But really, Ugh. Should it be this hard? I'm finding this very painful, and somewhat humiliating. It's taking a toll on my self-esteem.When the moment presents itself (i.e. no excuses), dress in some sexy lingerie, pull him toward you, grab his nuts and plant him a big wet kiss...then tell him how much he turns you on and you want him to take you now. Even if you have to fudge a little, think of it as a test.
If that doesn't get his mojo flowing, then, calmly suggest a checkup![]()
What's so hard about that? Jump his bones if you have it in you.Thanks for the suggestion. But really, Ugh. Should it be this hard?
You are chasing your husband. Men need to chase the woman.Do you think that will work in reverse? I don't think it is the same when the man is the LDer. For one thing, I give him attention, pats on the bum when he's around, arms around waist in the kitchen, thank-yous when he thinks to take out the garbage, ask how his way went, and so on. He tends to pull away, or get impatient that I ask him questions. I am trying to connect and it seems like all he can do is push away both literally and metaphorically.
Tonight for example, I sent him an email link to a porn site that I found last night and liked (he works away three weeks on and three weeks off). Tonight, he called and didn't even mention it. Finally, I asked, "Did you get my email". Ya. "Well? have you seen it?" No. "Are you interested in what it is?" Well it says big tits. "Well, doesn't that pique your interest?" Well ya, but lots of my friends email me stuff that say things like and they haven't even sent it. It's usually spam. "Uh, ok. But this is from me. Don't you think you could ask?"
ugh. Like pulling teeth. Oh, and btw, I never watched porn until I tried to engage him because I knew he did. Trying here folks! And rapidly losing interest and energy.
So the question is, how do you engage a LD, seemingly uninterested, man that claims to love you?
I've tried and been turned down, several times. That's what's so hard about this! I'm actually at my wits end and running out of ideas. I've tried engaging him in sext messaging, phone sex, come on to him subtly, not so subtly, said it outright (I'm horny and I want you!), talked dirty during sex, asked him what his fantasies are, and so on. Even sent him a couple (and I do mean only two) porn links of videos that I liked, hint, hint. He never even acknowledged them.What's so hard about that? Jump his bones if you have it in you.
Just begin talking about it after one of the many TV commercials comes on. Androgel or those BS test booster magic pills are all over the air now, so it will be easy to see one while watching some TV together.I've been wondering that myself. Now, how on earth do I pose that question/suggestion? Ugh.