It has seemed to be a battle for the past 3 years.... My husband has an addiction to porn.... we had K-9 up and it was fine everything was great and I was the only one with the password and he was okay with it. Then we got a new laptop and he put k9 on in before i ever even saw the computer and would not give me the password, it sent up a red flag but I decided I would try and trust my husband. :scratchhead: Then I asked him night before last if he could honestly tell me that he has abstained from it and he told me no. I do appreciate the honesty but I have told him time and again about how porn makes me feel and he understands but says he has a hard time with it. He told me i could put K-9 back on and he would be okay with it. Problem solved...right? then he proceeds to put me down in anyway possible that he can..... " you put everybody down and you think you are better than anyone. you can dish insults but anyone says a thing to you it offends you. he also said that I dont know how to keep my mouth shut and am mean to everyone. I have been through alot in the past 5 years We have had 2 special needs children, our youngest had open heart surgery at 4 months old (August 07) and my grandmother past a little over a year later (Aug 08) and a few months after that I had to have brain surgery (December 2008). My whole family looked to me to be strong for all of them and support them. I had to be strong for everyone, they all treat me like I am suppose to be some superwoman...... I have been so scared and I have to fall apart on my own when no one is around. Why would he degrate me like this when we are having problems with the porn issue. Then all of a sudden I am keeping him prisoner and he gets to do nothing. SO NOT THE CASE! i have always encouraged him to do things for himself. Is this just a total lack of respect for me? Is our marriage over? I am pregnant with our third child and am at a loss on how to handle this! Please help!