You said: Part of me wants to "Be a man," but the GOOD in me says I need to be with her, even if it is fake just for our unborn child right now.
Are you happy brother? You are posting in the section of this site that states, "Considering Separation or Divorce" so does this mean you are at a cross-roads?
You listed a series of things about your wife and quite frankly I don't understand the behaivour, there are experts out there for people who have "issues".
The Un-Born child makes life difficult, I can see that.
My thing, and if you look around here you will fidn that others don't find my advice very good..., is I wonder abou tthe health of a relationship, and how that affects your personal health.
At what point is enough, enough?
Maybe I can suggest this: there are people in your life, you mentioned a sister, I think that there must be people who are close to your situation and can see it for what it is...have you asked them what their choices would be?
I often think that people get into relationships and it just rips them both apart, and the others that are close...kids, parents, friends...
So maybe figure out what the losses are at this point, and then maybe look at what gains you could make? Would professional help be useful for her and yourself?
Everyone is unique, we all have different paths but I think the common threads are that there is help amongst our peers, our families and our community.
But I have to say something straight up and honest: don't let this person take advantage of you, your happiness is no less important than hers. If this relationship is poisonous to your health ( sex only 6-7 times a year?!!) then I would be seriously looking at decisions to help you establish some fairness.
Are you happy brother? You are posting in the section of this site that states, "Considering Separation or Divorce" so does this mean you are at a cross-roads?
You listed a series of things about your wife and quite frankly I don't understand the behaivour, there are experts out there for people who have "issues".
The Un-Born child makes life difficult, I can see that.
My thing, and if you look around here you will fidn that others don't find my advice very good..., is I wonder abou tthe health of a relationship, and how that affects your personal health.
At what point is enough, enough?
Maybe I can suggest this: there are people in your life, you mentioned a sister, I think that there must be people who are close to your situation and can see it for what it is...have you asked them what their choices would be?
I often think that people get into relationships and it just rips them both apart, and the others that are close...kids, parents, friends...
So maybe figure out what the losses are at this point, and then maybe look at what gains you could make? Would professional help be useful for her and yourself?
Everyone is unique, we all have different paths but I think the common threads are that there is help amongst our peers, our families and our community.
But I have to say something straight up and honest: don't let this person take advantage of you, your happiness is no less important than hers. If this relationship is poisonous to your health ( sex only 6-7 times a year?!!) then I would be seriously looking at decisions to help you establish some fairness.