First of all THE ANNULMENT IS FINAL! Kind of i feel sad because it is the end of the dream that lasted 30 years. But i can't deny how strong i was and how hard i worked and how many risky situations i crossed so Thumb Up to ME!
and to all who supported me and guided me during all my hard times.
Now to give some updates since last time i was here. I spent a period of Honeymoon stage, it was a peaceful time since my exh started individual therapy.. But he didn't last for long time, exactly as so many posters and readers of my story expected, especially Uptown. His reason was that they requested for him only 12 sessions and he did them all. When i asked him to request more because he started feeling better, he said that he doesn't need anymore, and that the therapist gave him tools to use and she can't help him more than that (His answer didn't surprise me)
Briefly, now with the annulment being final, he is not taking it well. He is now against the church and their judgement. The church is working against the bible teaching as he stated. He tried to talk to me to guilt me for my decision but i was ready to mirror things back to him, (tools i have learned from the book 'Stop Walking on Eggshells')
Since last week, my ex is so quiet not contacting me or sending me any message with the kids as he used to do in a weekly basis because he was trying to be close to me pretending that he was admitting the situation and that he will be supporting me and the kids as long as it takes.( all were tricks to stay close to me and try by doing all the nice things to me to get me to change my mind and go back to him before the annulment got finalized. He wasn't expecting it, as he said, to be ended before couple years)
Am I in The Quiet Before The Storm? Is he planning for something? I pray he will digest it well, otherwise i can not predict with an unpredictable person what is going to happen! I pray that he won't push me this time to get the restraining order!
I am not trying to be negative but my experience and history with him make me expect the worse.
I should be feeling free but i still don't have this feeling!