I have been together with my husband for 2 years, dating for 1 and married for the other. We talked about marriage while we were dating but we decided to take it slow. That's until I got pregnant with my son. We decided to get married legally, and have a ceremony when we were financially stable. Lately, all I can think about is having a divorce. He's a sweet guy most of the time but he has a marijuana habit. He has a prescription from the doctors but it's just an excuse to smoke. When I first got with him, he mentioned that he smoked occationally and because I didn't know him well enough I let it slide. He quit cold turkey when we got together officially but after a couple months he started again. He's really quiet when he's high...and as nice as he is, when he doesn't smoke, he's a mess. He's really grouchy and ansy. I asked him to stop smoking while I was pregnant because it stressed me out, but he couldn't do that for me or his son. I guess all the times he promised to stop and didn't has gotten me bitter. Even now he's set on not quitting even if I ask him. I must mention that we haven't been physical for a long time..and I don't know if it's because of the weed or because he see's me as a mother to his child..or if he's just lost interest. We're both really young and I tell myself that he's still young and he needs his time to be free and what not..but it kills me how our love turned so cold. What should I do? It is me? We currently live in different cities because we are both working. All the lies and broken promises are bottled up inside and when I look at him..it makes me cringe...I don't see him the same and everytime we try to have a conversation..we argue. I get really defensive when he says something to me and when we talk..it's always about him. I guess im being selfish...I just don't know what to do. I'm still young so I know there's plenty of time to change and heal...i'm only 21. Should I change my ways..because it is me too..