I don’t have it in me to let this man just drink himself to death....
Yeah, listen to 3x...Ah, here lies part of the problem. Its not your decision whether or not he drinks himself to death, its HIS. Please stop thinking you have any control over what he does, because you dont, and if he wants to drink himself to death, it really isnt your business. I know it doesnt make logical sense. You and your feelings are of no concern to him. But you can make the choice to no longer be a witness or a participant to his self destruction.
I did what you are doing, until I had a stroke... Then for the first time in years, I had clarity... Also, after the stroke, she got 2 Dui's in to weeks. Or was that before? I don't remember.
However, laying in the hospital bed I realized, if I keep doing this I am going to die.
That will wake you up. That was the beginning of me starting to live a healthier life, for me and my happiness.
And you know what if she OD's for some reason that is not my fault, it is not my responsibility. I will comfort my kids as best I can, but that is about it.