I was not offended at all. No need to apologize. The reason some of us write things more raw than others is because, here we have seem it all, and normally we can tell when an OP is not reacting to reasons as some other poster try to tell the OP in a more rational, easy way, that's when some of us go with the 4 X 4 not to offend the OP, but to try to shock him/her out of the fog in which they are due to their trauma.She told me she cheated. End of story. I am trying to have a meeting with her to tell her what that did to me, whether she hears it or not is irrelevant. I need to do it to close the book and move on. I am still in the beginning stages and can't help but do some what if's but I agree that is weak. I will get stronger and be able to heal. Sorry if I offended you I thought your post about getting royally **** by another dude wasn't very nice but I get it. I was trying to make a point. Some people have open marriages. Some people have a lot of sex before marriage, some people cheat and they find a way to work through it eventually. I am not that guy, it would bother me forever, but I have wanted to hear stories of all sorts.
I'm glad for you that you finally got your answer and now you can move on. We all saw it from the get go, you did too, but were so shocked that you didn't want to believe it.
I'm not you, but if I were you I would ghost her, gray rock her, period. I wouldn't feel the need to have a face to face in the end it only humiliates you more in front of her. Remember, nothing like gray rocking a woman to really get to her.
Best luck going forward.