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would you let your 9-year old date?

  • of course, at that age its totally harmless and sweet

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  • no, its simply not appropriate; kids should be kids

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  • i'd be okay with it if it were my son but not my daughter

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  • I would want to meet the other kid first before i'd decide

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  • kids are in a hurry to grow up and its disturbing to me

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my sister told me yesterday that her daughter--my niece--just had her 2 month anniversary with her boyfriend so they went out shopping together to celebrate. she just thought it was the cutest thing ever. but I don't know, its kind of upsetting to me. kids are moving really fast nowadays aren't they?

is it really appropriate for a 9-year old girl to have a boyfriend? or am I just an old dinosaur?

I don't have any kids yet but I wouldn't want my daughter dating at that age..
 

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My son is 12 and started with the boyfriend girlfriend thing a couple years ago. Girls always seem to start earlier than boys do.

I wouldn't worry about it. As long as your sister is monitoring them when they are together and not allowing them to spend a lot of alone time it should be fine. As long as it stays "cute" and doesn't get serious.
 

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depends on how you define that. I had gf when I was that age and that was 44 years ago.
 

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My son had a "girlfriend" a couple years ago (that would put him at 10 & 1/2), she came over once or twice, he bored her to death with legos, she whined to us about him not paying enough attention to her (they start young...ha...), and that was the last I heard of them. They "broke up" one week later.
 

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I agree it's probably a "kid thing" and maybe harmless, but letting two 9 year olds refer to each other as bf/gf and have "anniversaries" sets a precedence for future years. I have a 10 y/o and 13 y/o and neither has had a bf (nor will until I'm dead and buried).

I say it's not appropriate at that age and should be discouraged.
 

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My son had a girlfriend last year. It lasted 4 months, she came over here (no closed doors policy) which they would play video games. He'd go over to her house (same rules applied) and it was cute. He was 12 at the time. They broke up at almost 5 months in. I was amazed it lasted longer than some adult "relationships".

But I don't think I'd be okay with 9 and "dating". I still have a year or so until my other children get to that age, so we'll see.
 

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childhood bf/gf thing, no problem its pretty innocent. Now celebrating monthiversaries?? That sounds completely not age appropriate. This is grade 4 we're talking about here.
 

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At that age my daughter had 'boyfriends' which meant they hung out together on the playground. That is sweet. But the parents actually taking them somewhere for a 'date' is rushing things.

My daughter is almost 14 and has her first 'boyfriend' who gives her hugs in school and talks via facetime every evening. But if she wanted to 'date' - I'm not sure I'm cool with that unless it's in a group setting.

Right now I'll drop her at the movies/shopping center/mall to hang out, eat a meal, watch a movie with friends but not an actual date. So far no first kiss, either. I'm sure that's coming. I like this boy and he's a good first boyfriend. I've met him on several occasions at school. He sets the bar high.
 

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is it really appropriate for a 9-year old girl to have a boyfriend? or am I just an old dinosaur?
That depends on how old the boyfriend is.

I took a girl out on a date once, she seemed a lot younger then her stated profile age. Before things progressed too far in the back of the car, I said to her, "be honest, how old are you?"

She held up the fingers of both hands and said "This many!"



I dropped her off at her house.
 
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