Please. If I wanted those men I could have had them. I was not heartbroken because I can't sleep with them. I called some of these men my brother. I was heartbroken bc I thought they were my TRUE friends, that even if i got in a relationship they would still be my friend. I supported their relationships because we were FRIENDS. But I guess I was projecting my female ideas of what friends were on males.OMG. Is that really how you feel right now? That's a really big deal. How would you feel if you knew your husband was heartbroken over women he couldn't see?
I think both of you have some extreme boundary issues to deal with. He shouldn't be around those semi-ex's... AT ALL... and you shouldn't feel heartbroken about past guys you can't sleep with. You know about his issues, but does he know about yours? Which brings up privacy issues as well.
The clock is running on your marriage. You're young; if things don't work out, you can start over. But you gotta figure this stuff out, quickly. Insecurity is going to destroy both of you.