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Hello everyone,
Been awhile since I came back here. So it's been 2.5 months since DDay.
My partner has been trying to do everything she can to acquire my trust and forgiveness since that day.
She has completely abandonned all the people who were bad influences on her, she's been completely transparent with all details of her cell text conversations, facebook messages, e-mail.
She's changed her life around. She got a new and satisfying job, she's going back to school to further accelerate her career. She's made a new entourage and introduced me to them.
She's also made alot of thoughtful attempts towards me and has communicated alot more and better. In summary, she's really trying to make an effort to pull things together as much as possible. She has fufilled everything needed that would make me continue on things with her.
When we are together, I enjoy my time with her again like everything was back to normal and happy. But not everything is perfect.
When she is gone, I think/daydream bad things about her. I see other women and think that there are so many decent girls that why do I need to be stuck with the one that cheated? Often I have bad nightmares about what she did or nightmares about her cheating again. I wake up, happy that they were just dreams, but they feel so real when I'm in them and that feeling carries on throughout my day.
It's like my conscious has accepted and worked through this dilemma, but my sub-conscious won't let me. It has only been 2.5 months, so maybe I need more time.
I've literally chastised her and pummeled her with questions for 2 months straight and she's made alot of effort to make this work. My question is for those who chose to reconcile. Did you guys have similar feelings? Is it normal? Do you still think that reconciling is possible? How long did it take you or what stage of reconciling are you at?
Thanks for anyone who replies
Been awhile since I came back here. So it's been 2.5 months since DDay.
My partner has been trying to do everything she can to acquire my trust and forgiveness since that day.
She has completely abandonned all the people who were bad influences on her, she's been completely transparent with all details of her cell text conversations, facebook messages, e-mail.
She's changed her life around. She got a new and satisfying job, she's going back to school to further accelerate her career. She's made a new entourage and introduced me to them.
She's also made alot of thoughtful attempts towards me and has communicated alot more and better. In summary, she's really trying to make an effort to pull things together as much as possible. She has fufilled everything needed that would make me continue on things with her.
When we are together, I enjoy my time with her again like everything was back to normal and happy. But not everything is perfect.
When she is gone, I think/daydream bad things about her. I see other women and think that there are so many decent girls that why do I need to be stuck with the one that cheated? Often I have bad nightmares about what she did or nightmares about her cheating again. I wake up, happy that they were just dreams, but they feel so real when I'm in them and that feeling carries on throughout my day.
It's like my conscious has accepted and worked through this dilemma, but my sub-conscious won't let me. It has only been 2.5 months, so maybe I need more time.
I've literally chastised her and pummeled her with questions for 2 months straight and she's made alot of effort to make this work. My question is for those who chose to reconcile. Did you guys have similar feelings? Is it normal? Do you still think that reconciling is possible? How long did it take you or what stage of reconciling are you at?
Thanks for anyone who replies