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My story can be pretty much summarized to this MM I met online more than a year ago that I had an unstoppable connection and attraction with and found out he was still married and was never divorced like he told me. We had an intense EA, lied to me nearly about everything, including his wife cheating on him with someone who's into drugs, pretending he was divorced and living with his roomates when in fact, both of them are all lies. I did a background check on him, paid a respectable website and got all the informations I needed including his real civil status and family members. When I confronted him about it, he still denied it instead of admitting and coming clean, and dumped me almost immediately saying we're better off as friends coz I was so far away (we live in 2 different continents) when a month ago, he's been promising to come visit me to marry me coz he said I was everything he ever wanted in a wife.
I then emailed on fb all of his family members and friends in his town, (and hers too!) informing them that he is a manipulative liar and a serial cheater pretending to be single and available online, complete with chat archives full with his I love you's and I can't wait to be with you and videos he sent where he was confessing his undying love for me. Instead of dumping him like I was expecting, his wife of 12 years was apologetic to me and decided to forgive and work it out with him coz she said, they have 3 small children together and for their sake, she has to put it behind her. I was speechless. I felt like my exposure didn't really do anything to harm him or get back at him for lying to me and manipulating me for so long. I mean if my own husband is confessing in a video how much he loves the OW, I'd pack my bags and leave immediately together with the kids. Plus the whole family and community knowing about the affair, I thought she would dump him but seems like she wasn't affected at all. And nope, she had no idea about the affair at all. When I informed her about it on fb, I could tell she was very hurt and mad about it. She also told me that I should also try to forgive him and just "get over it" and move on. I was flabbergasted for lack of a better term. I really want to crush him the way he crushed my heart and making me look like a stupid fool for almost 2 years we were talking together. And I'm starting to hate her too coz she thinks I should just forget it and not expect any apology or closure from her husband. I feel like my expose only broke my heart even more coz we are in NC for almost a month no and it's killing me. I am not sure how I can get over this when I invested so much time and emotion and if I will be able to trust any guys again. Help!
I then emailed on fb all of his family members and friends in his town, (and hers too!) informing them that he is a manipulative liar and a serial cheater pretending to be single and available online, complete with chat archives full with his I love you's and I can't wait to be with you and videos he sent where he was confessing his undying love for me. Instead of dumping him like I was expecting, his wife of 12 years was apologetic to me and decided to forgive and work it out with him coz she said, they have 3 small children together and for their sake, she has to put it behind her. I was speechless. I felt like my exposure didn't really do anything to harm him or get back at him for lying to me and manipulating me for so long. I mean if my own husband is confessing in a video how much he loves the OW, I'd pack my bags and leave immediately together with the kids. Plus the whole family and community knowing about the affair, I thought she would dump him but seems like she wasn't affected at all. And nope, she had no idea about the affair at all. When I informed her about it on fb, I could tell she was very hurt and mad about it. She also told me that I should also try to forgive him and just "get over it" and move on. I was flabbergasted for lack of a better term. I really want to crush him the way he crushed my heart and making me look like a stupid fool for almost 2 years we were talking together. And I'm starting to hate her too coz she thinks I should just forget it and not expect any apology or closure from her husband. I feel like my expose only broke my heart even more coz we are in NC for almost a month no and it's killing me. I am not sure how I can get over this when I invested so much time and emotion and if I will be able to trust any guys again. Help!