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I have always felt I was different sexually. I have always heard what other guys say about their sex life, but untill you come onto a site where people are anonymous, you rarely get the truth...

I always suspected I had a much stronger sex drive than most people, and have always been aware of how it affected me in everyday life...In some ways it is great, but in other ways it is to say the least a distraction.....I

It was my great fortune to meet and marry a stunning woman who could handle my needs, raise kids, and cook...God watches out over fools I guess...

I have always been a faithful husband, but dearly LOVE to look at a well turned female...I told my wife "when I stop noticing a good looking woman, bury me". She had issues with it early on, but I have never made the slightest suggestion of straying, even when being alone on a job in Panama City Beach for 13 months....And she has learned she has absolutely nothing to worry about....

There is a difference between admiring a beautiful woman from a distance, and acting like an idiot...And I know and respect those boundaries....But I sure like to admire.....

I have never discussed this with my dad, he will be 96 on the 28th. and lives with us...He is hearing impaired, and watches westerns all day wearing headphones....My wife said the other day the camera panned up the backside of a dancehall gal, and dad said mmmm mmmm mmmm....I guess the acorn dosn't fall far from the tree.....

So, fellow board members, do you find being HD a burden?.....
 

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Yes.

I wish modern medicine had a reasonable solution that wasn't just an unpleasant side-effect for a primary illness.
 
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I would imagine it can be if the drives are so mismatched. If neither partner is willing to meet each other half way in deciding on what a healthy sex life means for them one or the other may think its a burden.
 

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I think it's only likely to be a burden if we're unfortunate enough to be in a relationship with someone whose drive is vastly different from our own.
 

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As a woman, being high drive has never been a burden. More like a gift from heaven. My opinion has always been that it is easier to convince a man to have sex than a woman.
 
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As a woman, being high drive has never been a burden. More like a gift from heaven. My opinion has always been that it is easier to convince a man to have sex than a woman.
Unless he's LD. There's nothing worse, IMO, than passionless sex :)
 
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HD as a female is a blessing and a burden.It's a blessing if you have a partner who understands that just because you're HD with him doesn't mean you've gone around town spreading your legs for every man who swings his wang your way.
It's a burden if you're with someone who thinks just because you are HD with them,you must be a sl*t who is HD with every one.As a side note,if you're blessed with HD then you shouldn't waste your time with the guy who thinks because you're HD you must also be a sl*t.

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HD as a female is a blessing and a burden.It's a blessing if you have a partner who understands that just because you're HD with him doesn't mean you've gone around town spreading your legs for every man who swings his wang your way.
It's a burden if you're with someone who thinks just because you are HD with them,you must be a sl*t who is HD with every one.As a side note,if you're blessed with HD then you shouldn't waste your time with the guy who thinks because you're HD you must also be a sl*t.

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Hence why I like the saying "Every guy wants a lady in the street and a sl*t in the bed"

I only judge a woman by what she does in bed in my relationship, not prior to dating her. She can be a sl*t for me (and only me) all she wants though :D
 

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I've often wondered if HD people fullfill their potential in careers/ business etc. Does their drive power them along more or does it detract from focus on the main game.
I have found hd an ongoing burden at times and just wished it away, tho eventually came to accept it as just ' being who I am'
Trying to concentrate at work or other activities and having this relentless desire totally distracting me.
Having an orgasm for example in the morning might only take the edge off and a couple hours later your body is craving it again.
I'm my relationship it's great, but many times thru my life I've perceived it as a burden.
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burdon if your not paired up with someone who is HD or at least will compromise.
 

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Both me and my H are pretty HD (we both like it at least once a day) .... so it can be a huge burden when we are working so many hours.

It's not even a case of being 'too tired' (that's never stopped us!) It's simply a case of not having enough time to spend with each other, which really sucks when you're HD and a quickie every morning just isn't enough!!

So in that respect, yes, big burden... But to be honest, the constant raging desire is actually quite amazing in a whole other sense, and makes the long intense sex (when we finally get to it on the weekend!) all the better :)
 

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I am defiinetly HD and it has been a problem in most relationships. The early infatuation phase is usually great in that I'm finally running at my normal pace. As the infatuation phase wanes my partner starts to slow down and I'm still wanting to run at normal for me. I married a woman who seemed to be able to keep up and enjoy it....that is until the marriage and suddenly she became a lazy lover who was happy to begin using sex as a weapon in the relationship. Another danger to being HD.
 

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It can be. Even though my wife has improved on her LD, I am always looking to drop a load and she isn't. It does cause some friction.
 

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I've often wondered if HD people fullfill their potential in careers/ business etc. Does their drive power them along more or does it detract from focus on the main game.
I have found hd an ongoing burden at times and just wished it away, tho eventually came to accept it as just ' being who I am'
Trying to concentrate at work or other activities and having this relentless desire totally distracting me.
Having an orgasm for example in the morning might only take the edge off and a couple hours later your body is craving it again.
I'm my relationship it's great, but many times thru my life I've perceived it as a burden.
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Exactly right. Really good point....I was a mechanical designer for most of my career, and I developed an intense focus on my projects. I have literally spent 8 1/2 hours at a CAD terminal without a lunch break, or a pee break...It was a defense mechanism against being distracted by sex....

Of course I was always horney in high school, everyone is. but then I got married, and knew something wasn't "NORMAL" I have seen the time when I would have sex 3 times with my wife in the morning, and my head would snap around at a glimpse of a well turned girl on the way to work that afternoon...It was at that time when I realised I would never really get enough....Until I came on this board, I couldn't concieve of anyone under 70 needing viagra...

I am one of the lucky ones in finding a wife I couldn't keep my hands off of, and who was almost my equil in libido....

The problem is, what's the use of raging hormones at 66 years of age......
 

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Looking but not touching for 13 months? As long as you can "take the problem in hand" and have no desire for contacting others, you're ok. I think.
 

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A resounding no from me.
I've been with my wife for 14 yrs, married for 12. I'm 47, she's 44.
She also has a high sex drive, and it is normal for us to have sex at least 2 or 3 times every night and I often come home from work during the day for one or two. We go away regularly for full on sex holidays, where 9 or ten times a night is the usual.
Even when she's not really in the mood, I know exactly the things to do to GET her in the mood. And by the way, she is watching as I type this, so she knows I have my devious ways of getting her turned on.
I have never found it to be a burden at all.
The only difference for me is this - I'm not the slightest bit turned on by other women, only my wife. So if a woman walks past, it doesn't make my head snap around and rev up my hormones.
If my wife calls me however, or texts me, or I can't stop thinking about her, then it's straight home and into it.
As for whether someone can have a successful working life, I do. I own my own business, direct my team of dozer drivers, drive dozers myself as well as other manual work. I suppose I'm lucky in that I work around my need for sex - if I want it, I go home and get it. I don't let work stop me. If my wife calls and says she's in the mood, well ****** the work, it will wait till another time.
Hearing my gorgeous wife when she O's, that can never wait.
 
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