I agree with molly here, NO ONE and i mean NO ONE is allowed to dig in my purse. that is my personal private space. and the same goes for his wallet.I think that depends on the couple. Does your wife know that you don't want her to open up mail with only your name on it? I don't think this needs to be turned into a big thing; just some boundaries being set.
As for my husband and I, we don't really have any boundaries when it comes to mail. I stay out of my hubby's wallet though I don't have to; it's more of a respect thing I like to give him. Same thing with my hubby and my purse.
With the wife and I we have little personal space, I tell her to go through my mail all the time and sometimes have her log into an e-mail account because I need information from it. She has no problem with me and she doesn't own a purse. I rarely have to go into her e-mail or mail but since I set up her e-mail , myspace etc I guess I could if I wanted to just never really felt the need to.I came home to find that my wife opened my mail.
Is anything private or is everything open to all inthe relationship?