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Hello all. Ive been a viewer on the forums for a few months and I guess its about time I posted for some input. Im literally feeling the end of what I can take and I love my husband but the pain and hurt and crying to make myself feel better is tearing me up.
I don't know what to say he is addicted to, possibly talking to/meeting new women online. Sometimes flirting with them, other times just to say how was your day.
Now do understand, we are both introverted so neither of us have a huge friend pool, and honestly for me everyone except him i can only handle in bursts. Id rather be alone or with him to be at my most comfortable and happy level. I assume it is similar for him as he has no close male friends where we live. He has some from other areas he lived in from being military though.
When we are apart we send sweet texts and say i miss you, and love you and random little sweet things. When we are together were always hugging, touching, kissing. For all intense purposes it seems fine but then behind my back he goes online and messages women. You probably wonder how I know this. When we dated he had a problem with sites like fling and adultfriendfinder and he gave me access to all of us stuff and said i could look whenever i wanted. Sometimes I just wonder if he honestly did drop it all cause he will tell me he did. But i always see something. Recently its that he made an account on a social network that is not named in adult nature but lots of people on it seem to want nothing but sex, one night stands when traveling, and flirting with each other, as well as a lot of foreign overseas ladies looking for a way to the USA. These oversea beauties seem to be the ones hes always flirting with, and he does have a bit of a thing for foreign ladies.
In the past, i have confronted him about it, a few times I even asked if he thought he had a problem he wasn't aware of, and he always says no and that he doesn't do it anymore. Obviously he always says what he thinks i want to hear to make it all better and go away.
Am I crazy?
The history of this to me looks like some kind of addiction and i feel like for this to work needs to seek some assistance to find out what is causing this deep desire to continuously find a way to sneak around chatting to women. I understand some couples might have secrets, but a need to talk to, meet and flirt with other women to me doesn't seem right.
Or is this normal, happily married men that just like to have a little flirting on the side that couldn't turn into anything real because its so far away and not tangible enough to pull you in real life?
Im so frustrated right now Im not sure what details to include or not, I just hope you wonderful people can give me some input as I feel like im pulling myself in two directions and neither is winning.
Thanks for listening.
I don't know what to say he is addicted to, possibly talking to/meeting new women online. Sometimes flirting with them, other times just to say how was your day.
Now do understand, we are both introverted so neither of us have a huge friend pool, and honestly for me everyone except him i can only handle in bursts. Id rather be alone or with him to be at my most comfortable and happy level. I assume it is similar for him as he has no close male friends where we live. He has some from other areas he lived in from being military though.
When we are apart we send sweet texts and say i miss you, and love you and random little sweet things. When we are together were always hugging, touching, kissing. For all intense purposes it seems fine but then behind my back he goes online and messages women. You probably wonder how I know this. When we dated he had a problem with sites like fling and adultfriendfinder and he gave me access to all of us stuff and said i could look whenever i wanted. Sometimes I just wonder if he honestly did drop it all cause he will tell me he did. But i always see something. Recently its that he made an account on a social network that is not named in adult nature but lots of people on it seem to want nothing but sex, one night stands when traveling, and flirting with each other, as well as a lot of foreign overseas ladies looking for a way to the USA. These oversea beauties seem to be the ones hes always flirting with, and he does have a bit of a thing for foreign ladies.
In the past, i have confronted him about it, a few times I even asked if he thought he had a problem he wasn't aware of, and he always says no and that he doesn't do it anymore. Obviously he always says what he thinks i want to hear to make it all better and go away.
Am I crazy?
The history of this to me looks like some kind of addiction and i feel like for this to work needs to seek some assistance to find out what is causing this deep desire to continuously find a way to sneak around chatting to women. I understand some couples might have secrets, but a need to talk to, meet and flirt with other women to me doesn't seem right.
Or is this normal, happily married men that just like to have a little flirting on the side that couldn't turn into anything real because its so far away and not tangible enough to pull you in real life?
Im so frustrated right now Im not sure what details to include or not, I just hope you wonderful people can give me some input as I feel like im pulling myself in two directions and neither is winning.
Thanks for listening.