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Do you believe its disrespectful for a husband to keep ***following hot instagram "models" or wanna-bes with hot pictures?

How would you react?

I deleted and we had an argument long ago, but i had to go behind his back and delete again and aagain, but im just tired to have any talk about it.

(And dont come talking "his privacy bla bla". I dont care about hia privacy. If any husband wants privacy, then he can start by washing his own socks and underwear, do his dishes, cook his food and clean his bathroom. After that we can TALK about privacy 🙄)
Well this happens to me quite recently with my husband and yes I find is disrespectful and devaluing their partners while validating someone else — it’s just that plain and simple .
if they were single of course it’s a different story . If you are in a committed relationship there is no justified excuse to actually follow and like another woman’s photos .. innocent or not !
it makes me angry this is so common now but it is what it is … men find it easy to do this online . But to clarify , yes it’s normal to look and that’s fine — truthfully no one can’t prevent someone from looking and moving on , however following and liking and in my case he even sent DMs is a gateway to cheating ! It’s only a matter of the right woman that will bite the bait .
So for me , it is highly unacceptable, and if they go further as mine did with conversations, it’s in line with emotional infidelity .. sharing your time with someone not your spouse even without physical contact is infidelity and breach of trust . PERIOD
 

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Well this happens to me quite recently with my husband and yes I find is disrespectful and devaluing their partners while validating someone else — it’s just that plain and simple .
if they were single of course it’s a different story . If you are in a committed relationship there is no justified excuse to actually follow and like another woman’s photos .. innocent or not !
it makes me angry this is so common now but it is what it is … men find it easy to do this online . But to clarify , yes it’s normal to look and that’s fine — truthfully no one can’t prevent someone from looking and moving on , however following and liking and in my case he even sent DMs is a gateway to cheating ! It’s only a matter of the right woman that will bite the bait .
So for me , it is highly unacceptable, and if they go further as mine did with conversations, it’s in line with emotional infidelity .. sharing your time with someone not your spouse even without physical contact is infidelity and breach of trust . PERIOD
@moon7 This is the lady I mentioned, who's H is also following Instagram models.

Hope you didn't mind, Savannah, thought you might have some insights for OP.
 

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@moon7 This is the lady I mentioned, who's H is also following Instagram models.

Hope you didn't mind, Savannah, thought you might have some insights for OP.
Not at all @TXTrini , yep unfortunately that is me … such a weird place to be but here I am having to deal with this too . I know I sound like a spiteful woman but social media platforms are so dangerous for people who do not know boundaries and the effect this has on their partners
@moon7 I’m sorry you’re going through this because it’s not something I would wish on anyone else . I am currently dealing with trust and a whole bunch of other things that follows this type of betrayal . It is not fun
 

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I don't know where you got that I'm an arbiter of marriage, I simply cannot understand why people bother getting married if they're going to focus their sexual energy on external parties. Watching porn is one thing, actively following "models" on social media is quite another. There's another thread where this lady's husband messages the models, where do you see this train headed next?
This right here. Men wonder why women shut down sexually. Gosh. I wonder if it has anything to do with the completely UNEXAMINED idea that “all guys do it” — without any concern whatsoever for the consequences. Until a wife eventually recedes into herself and feels unattractive, undesirable and less sexy than the endless cornucopia of thirsty “models” on social media.

Most husbands insist on loyalty in a marriage. And some expect loyalty while making excuses for investing their sexual energy into literally everyone but their wives.

My response has always been the same. How would he feel if you started an OnlyFans account? What if you invested your sexual energy into being the fantasy girl for other men? It’s not really that difficult. What’s good for the goose should be good for the gander — but female sexuality is judged by a wholly different set of standards. Because the standard is defined by male sexuality and what men desire, what men find acceptable (hence the virgin/***** complex, etc.).

Every marriage is different. If one partner has established boundaries around what is and is not acceptable, why would anyone get into a relationship with that person KNOWING they won’t respect those boundaries?
 

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Nope, I don't think it's important.
My wife is welcome to look at guys in bathing costumes if she wants, doesn't bother me.

When we're watching movies and TV shows, should we avert our eyes when the sex scenes pop up?
Should I look away when the dancers appear in pop videos?
You can easily avoid programmes with sex scenes in if you choose to.
Pop videos are often pornographic anyway so not hard to avoid.
 

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This right here. Men wonder why women shut down sexually. Gosh. I wonder if it has anything to do with the completely UNEXAMINED idea that “all guys do it” — without any concern whatsoever for the consequences. Until a wife eventually recedes into herself and feels unattractive, undesirable and less sexy than the endless cornucopia of thirsty “models” on social media.

Most husbands insist on loyalty in a marriage. And some expect loyalty while making excuses for investing their sexual energy into literally everyone but their wives.

My response has always been the same. How would he feel if you started an OnlyFans account? What if you invested your sexual energy into being the fantasy girl for other men? It’s not really that difficult. What’s good for the goose should be good for the gander — but female sexuality is judged by a wholly different set of standards. Because the standard is defined by male sexuality and what men desire, what men find acceptable (hence the virgin/* complex, etc.).

Every marriage is different. If one partner has established boundaries around what is and is not acceptable, why would anyone get into a relationship with that person KNOWING they won’t respect those boundaries?
I’m the lady with the husband who idiotically DMs a random woman on Instagram — which to this day he has no viable answer why he did it , but he did
It’s a difficult thing to accept because for me , I’m left wondering why do men feel this is okay when yes , they would certainly not accept this from their spouses
That thought includes my husband who at some point in time was overly jealous of everything when he was younger and here he is now looking at women close to our daughters age !
Yet at the same time would be disgusted if he found men his age follow our daughter on social media !
What ???!
All reasoning out the window because this is the stupidest thing I’ve ever encountered, how social media platforms certainly ruins relationships for those who has spouses or partners who do not understand boundaries
Sadly I don’t think it’s changing anytime soon … And so goes many ruined relationships because it’s no very easy to cheat on someone online
 

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I’m the lady with the husband who idiotically DMs a random woman on Instagram — which to this day he has no viable answer why he did it , but he did
It’s a difficult thing to accept because for me , I’m left wondering why do men feel this is okay when yes , they would certainly not accept this from their spouses
That thought includes my husband who at some point in time was overly jealous of everything when he was younger and here he is now looking at women close to our daughters age !
Yet at the same time would be disgusted if he found men his age follow our daughter on social media !
What ???!
All reasoning out the window because this is the stupidest thing I’ve ever encountered, how social media platforms certainly ruins relationships for those who has spouses or partners who do not understand boundaries
Sadly I don’t think it’s changing anytime soon … And so goes many ruined relationships because it’s no very easy to cheat on someone online
Thankfully a lot of men don't think it's ok to do that.
I agree about the double standards as well. It's the same with porn. I guess most men who look at young women on porn or whatever, would hate it if it was their daughter/wife/sister being oggled in that way.
 

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Thankfully a lot of men don't think it's ok to do that.
I agree about the double standards as well. It's the same with porn. I guess most men who look at young women on porn or whatever, would hate it if it was their daughter/wife/sister being oggled in that way.
Ridiculous isn’t it ? I don’t know why they don’t think of that at the moment when they’re the ones doing it , it’s like all common sense goes out the window. They usually feel what they do is justified and normal I guess , or not a big deal
Well karma isn’t a big deal either until it hits you right in the face … that’s all I can say
 

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I find it really hard to lose weight just through exercise.
Cycled 20Km this morning, using a little over an hour, only 600Kcals, that's 1/2 a Big Mac combo.
The only way I can lose my extra weight is by eating less, doesn't take any time, doesn't cost me any money.
It's not easy, but if you put in a little effort and a lot of determination, it's worthwhile for your self esteem.

You can't change your husband's behaviour, but you might be able to make him a little more secretive. You can only change you.

Sorry if my previous post seemed a little insensitive, I could have worded it better.
My family just cut out most carbs and sugars. Im down 30+, son the same, wife dropped a pant size.
 
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