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Do you believe its disrespectful for a husband to keep ***following hot instagram "models" or wanna-bes with hot pictures?

How would you react?

I deleted and we had an argument long ago, but i had to go behind his back and delete again and aagain, but im just tired to have any talk about it.

(And dont come talking "his privacy bla bla". I dont care about hia privacy. If any husband wants privacy, then he can start by washing his own socks and underwear, do his dishes, cook his food and clean his bathroom. After that we can TALK about privacy 🙄)
 

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Dp you believe its disrespectful for a husband to keep adding hot instagram "models" or wanna-bes with hot pictures?
Yes.

I like looking at hot women in bikinis but I try and avoid looking at them unless it is my wife. She really needs to wear bikinis more.

On my Instagram I do have a couple of women who compete in bikini contests but I know them IRL from my gym and my wife has met them IRL and I don’t like or reply or DM them other than encouragement on their training.

Especially on any social media where the people or entities he follows is public information, for example if someone follows you back (like your boss) and they can see you follow a bunch of e-thots, not a good look.

I have unfollowed some women professional chess players because they posted oddly sexual content and I didn’t want it on my feed.
 

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The vast majority of men love to look at beautiful women, and for most that's as far as it goes. You're kidding yourself if you think they're not looking. If just looking really bothers you that much, I suggest dating women. However, DMing, commenting, and other creeper behavior is a different matter and totally not okay. Just my very limited experience, but the women I've been with who had a huge issue with looking had low self esteem.
 

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I wouldn’t like it at all. And why is it so important to him that he has to do it knowing it makes his wife mad?

I have ZERO idea why.

He doesnt even talk to them or anything.

Ad he knows it makes me upset. I even excluded and unfollowed his instagram from mine because of it back then.

This week ive found he followed 2 of those again.

Im meh!!! Tired.
 

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The vast majority of men love to look at beautiful women, and for most that's as far as it goes. You're kidding yourself if you think they're not looking. If just looking really bothers you that much, I suggest dating women. However, DMing, commenting, and other creeper behavior is a different matter and totally not okay. Just my very limited experience, but the women I've been with who had a huge issue with looking had low self esteem.
Im not talking about looking (but it does bother me), im talking about following them. Especially after 2020 when i gained 20pounds from stress eating (two small kids, pandamics, low money and stuff, no seep bc one kid had night panic), i dont have self esteem for it not bother me.
 

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So the one I maybe not so sneakily do is I buy lingerie for my wife frequently. They happen to email me ads, promotions, etc… and I see it in my email inbox and say no… no I will not open this and… then next thing I know I opened it and bought my wife some new pieces.

So I didn’t mean to look but they sent it to me, so I channeled that energy back into her and every once in a while she treats me by breaking something out and wearing it. Wow!

My wife is pretty confident about her body and such and isn’t intimidated by models and really doesn’t care what I do, but I do agree it is disrespectful and certainly I wouldn’t want to be having my follower list on any social media containing a bunch of bikini clad women. For that matter, I look at my Instagram often in public where I wouldn’t want bikini models to be popping up on the screen. It’s a bad look.
 

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Yes it's disrespectful.

What does he say?
Is he sneaking? or does he simply disagree with your assessment?
Nothing, really haha

He was not into instagram, but when he did it he imediatelly started following got "models" (some more famous and some wanna be with sexual pictures who lived nearby), i complained here and there, until we had an argument with me asking if he did an instagram only to follow them and that it was disrespectful to me bla bla. It was long ago.

How can i manage it?

Im not cold blooded to know and do nothing.
 

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Dp you believe its disrespectful for a husband to keep adding hot instagram "models" or wanna-bes with hot pictures?

How would you react?

I deleted and we had an argument long ago, but i had to go behind his back and delete again and aagain, but im just tired to have any talk about it.

(And dont come talking "his privacy bla bla". I dont care about hia privacy. If any husband wants privacy, then he can start by washing his own socks and underwear, do his dishes, cook his food and clean his bathroom. After that we can TALK about privacy 🙄)
I think it’s kind of pathetic really.

Not because it’s disrespectful to you (which I agree it kind of is), but more so because it’s just pathetic for a man to be following vapid THOTs (er I mean Instagram models) on the internet, who they will never meet, thirstily giving them free attention, and validation, and clicks, and sometimes money, and getting what in return? A bikini pic or maybe an occasional boob shot?

It just says loser to me.
 

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I deleted and we had an argument long ago, but i had to go behind his back and delete again and aagain, but im just tired to have any talk about it.

(And dont come talking "his privacy bla bla". I dont care about hia privacy. If any husband wants privacy, then he can start by washing his own socks and underwear, do his dishes, cook his food and clean his bathroom. After that we can TALK about privacy 🙄)
Why are you deleting them?

Are you his mommy throwing away the Playboys stashed under his bed?

He’s a grown man and knows his wife doesn’t like him drooling over 19 year hussyies.

Yet he’s doing it anyway. You tell me if that is respectful and you tell me if that is the behavior you want out of a husband and supposed grown man.

So yeah, if he wants to spend his time and money on spank material, that’s his business and socks, underwear and bathroom can all be his business as well.
 

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Dp you believe its disrespectful for a husband to keep adding hot instagram "models" or wanna-bes with hot pictures?

How would you react?

I deleted and we had an argument long ago, but i had to go behind his back and delete again and aagain, but im just tired to have any talk about it.

(And dont come talking "his privacy bla bla". I dont care about hia privacy. If any husband wants privacy, then he can start by washing his own socks and underwear, do his dishes, cook his food and clean his bathroom. After that we can TALK about privacy 🙄)
I think it's both disrespectful and inconsiderate. He knows how you feel about it, yet doesn't care about your feelings enough to adjust his behavior.

I know you said you guys have financial issues, so it may not be possible to do anything he'll pay attention to without financial repercussions. He's behaving like a single thirsty male, not a grown man. He might be having a mid-life crisis or whatever, but he's behaving like a boy who got caught with his hand in the cookie jar. Do you want to keep having to look over your shoulder and discipline him? There's no nice way to address this.

The vast majority of men love to look at beautiful women, and for most that's as far as it goes. You're kidding yourself if you think they're not looking. If just looking really bothers you that much, I suggest dating women. However, DMing, commenting, and other creeper behavior is a different matter and totally not okay. Just my very limited experience, but the women I've been with who had a huge issue with looking had low self esteem.
No one says you can't look, but if you want to pull this crap, best be single. Maybe OP should start following a bunch of muscled half-naked men on Instagram too and liking all their provocative pics, see how he likes dem apples.

Btw, you truly must have very limited experience with women, because most would punt you instead of dealing with immature shenanigans, or drool over men in front of you to give you a dose of your medicine. It's way easier for women to get sex than men, btw, so who do you think would win that stupid game?

I'm glad I haven't men "most men" like this, most men I've met are decent enough and fairly respectable to keep that **** on the down low.
 

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Dp you believe its disrespectful for a husband to keep adding hot instagram "models" or wanna-bes with hot pictures?

How would you react?

I deleted and we had an argument long ago, but i had to go behind his back and delete again and aagain, but im just tired to have any talk about it.

(And dont come talking "his privacy bla bla". I dont care about hia privacy. If any husband wants privacy, then he can start by washing his own socks and underwear, do his dishes, cook his food and clean his bathroom. After that we can TALK about privacy 🙄)
I would follow models at one point on Instagram for a very short time. I never hid it and as soon my wife said something about it, I thought WTF am I doing and deleted Instagram all together.

It is disrespectful to keep doing it after you clearly told him that it crosses one of you boundaries and is unacceptable. Have you done that in a calm, but serious manner? Does he have any other issues, like porn maybe? Everything else in the marriage okay?
 

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Dp you believe its disrespectful for a husband to keep adding hot instagram "models" or wanna-bes with hot pictures?
Nope, I don't think it's important.
My wife is welcome to look at guys in bathing costumes if she wants, doesn't bother me.

When we're watching movies and TV shows, should we avert our eyes when the sex scenes pop up?
Should I look away when the dancers appear in pop videos?
 

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No one says you can't look, but if you want to pull this crap, best be single. Maybe OP should start following a bunch of muscled half-naked men on Instagram too and liking all their provocative pics, see how he likes dem apples.
Wouldn't bother me one bit.
 
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