No that is not it at all. I honestly don't think that you are being fair.Yes!
Interesting that some men are reacting negatively to the idea that perhaps a man should consider different factors when choosing a partner, and also when making financial decisions in a marriage....yet it's also the MEN who complain and cry they they are shafted financially in a divorce in which the wife didn't work for 30 years.
You can't have it both ways.
Lets look at some examples.
Wife is SAHM, kids get older, she starts banging every Tom, **** (No pun intended) and Harry around. He finds out, and divorces her.
He gets screwed over in the divorce. Is that fair.
It would not be fair if we reversed the genders.
I could use my example which is almost as bad, but you get the idea.
The divorce laws are tilted towards women in almost every case.
And that is why LOTS of people don't want to get married, or married again.