Lol no you shouldn't blame yourself. Not at all. It was HER choice to have an affair. If you have to be that fake / secretive about something that big, don't hang out with people who are going to judge you for it. Besides, your wife is the one who made you go over there and yell at him, right? That was HER IDEA. Now she's getting to enjoy the backlash!
OMs wife did have a right to know. YOUR wife is blame shifting, that's all. Cheaters do that. It's shame portraying itself as anger. As long as she stays angry, she won't feel ashamed. But eventually the shame is going to catch up.
Don't let her off easy - or she'll do it again.
OMs wife did have a right to know. YOUR wife is blame shifting, that's all. Cheaters do that. It's shame portraying itself as anger. As long as she stays angry, she won't feel ashamed. But eventually the shame is going to catch up.
Don't let her off easy - or she'll do it again.