Hi ladies! This is my first post for advice on any site so obviously things have gotten to an extreme point. Before getting married I was a loyal fan of every wedding reality show that you can think of. I also like to event plan for my family and friends, so you can imagine that I had my heart set on planning a great wedding. Long story short, I got pregnant at 22 and was married by 23. My husband and I got married at a court house just 1 month before our daughter was born. At the time I got pregnant I was living in state far from my family because I got a great job there after graduating from college. So after we married at the courthouse, my husband, daughter, and I continued living away from and friends because of our professions. After my daughter was born things went down hill for me. She's a major blessing but at such a young age I lost control of my life. I went from taking care of myself to gaining lots of weight and letting myself go. I then became very insecure with how we got married and started to lament going to the courthouse and throwing away all of my dreams. I had no idea how much it was going to impact my psyche. I feel myself becoming bitter about how I got married and it's starting to impact my relationship. I guess I should add that my husband and I went through a lot before getting married, his infidelity, moving him from one state to the one that I was working in, etc. A wedding would have made everything so much sweeter. Not to mention, our families were really disappointed about not being there to witness our union. I've read sites that say it's tacky to try to have a wedding-like celebration after you're married, but I'm in need of a comeback to kill this bitterness. Any advice?