Anyone have any experience with this?
As I said, we're handling it pretty well now. That could change at any minute, obviously.Went through it with my second husband. It lasted about a month and a half until he found his own place. I honestly don't believe I could have handled it any longer. It created a multitude of friction and arguments.
Not quite sure what you're saying...I wouldn't want to be here but thankfully he's away at his mum's place at the moment. He had a string of long-term adulteries and I'd dread to see him coming home.
Does "no dating" include say - one night stands? Or is he still eligible for... "nookie"?I just started a similar situation, though we are both (seemingly) in agreemnet that divorce is the best option...
Short story: financially he needs me to stay inthe house until he gets his promotion (March-ish) and then he can afford the house on his own. Did you guys set up ground rules? We have "no dating" and "keep communication open" as our big ones.
I am curious about how you are both moving on if you're still living together - I am afraid of misleading him or holding him back from moving on (though he told me his recent fitness/diet burst started because he knew he'd have to be back on the market in the near future, so it's obviously been on his mind).
What kind of friction/arguments have you had? We have had two discussions right off the bat. Nothing major, but typically when I go out with my gay friends he doesn't come because he's a giant and the bars are crowded and everyone is dancing, but he'll come pick me up. Prior to us dating I would sleep at their house - so what would he want me to do so that he didn't think I was breaking the "no dating" rule (not that I'm one to randomly meet a guy in a bar or anything)?
As a newbie to this situation, I'm trying to plan for potential pitfalls...
Best of luck in this craziness ending soon, to old timer and to all the others going through this same situation!
I'm not sure that he's ever had or ever desired a one-night stand, so I would say Yes, it does include that. I'm not looking for that either, and have never been much for "hooking up" or casual sex. If he found someone worth sleeping with, one night only or for a while, then I guess go for it - I'll deal with however that might make me feel and we move on. I think the no dating was more in terms of me not dating anyone, since I am the one who asked for the divorce and I am living in "his" house. I respect that and where it is coming from (and am moving out of state in a few months so wouldn't want to start anything anyway), so it's not a big problem for me.Does "no dating" include say - one night stands? Or is he still eligible for... "nookie"?