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First of all, I like to state I love my wife and her and I are happily married.

My wife, (Kelly), and I meet in college and I was drawn to her outgoing vibrant flirting personality and her fantastic body, blonde hair, and cute face.

My male friends kept forewarning me, Kelly is not the type girl I should date and heaven forbid marry due to her being too much of a flirt, having dated too many guys, and showing off her body too much.

Kelly and I married for who we each are, not to try to make changes in each other.

Of my male college friends who were wrong in telling me not to marry Kelly, are either divorced or unhappily married, whereas Kelly and I are very much in love and happily married.

To this day Kelly is very much of a flirt with men and that is just an extension of who she is as a person, vibrant and fun loving, all of which I fully accept.

Both Kelly and I, keep in shape with her being in fantastic shape. My wife's hobby and passion is to enter one or two bikini contest a year to show off her dedication to working out, nutrition, and fantastic physical attributes.

Are my wife's bikinis skimpy and revealing? Yes, very much so, from thongs that place her rear on public display to the tops that barely cover her boobs. But the bottom line her and I are very happy together and have left my negative college buddies to wallow in their disappointing marriages or state of divorce.

The fitness center my wife and I are members have a large poster on display of my wife in a bikini from her most recent contest she had won. Once again, the bikini reveals just about all of my wife's physical attributes and beauty......Yes but it also shows her hard work in training and nutrition and motivational for members of the club.

So after years of marriage, I love my flirty and exhibitionist wife and would not change on thing about her.

I would like to hear insights and feedback from other married couples with a wife thats tends to flirt and if it is a positive or negative.

Thanks from Wesley and Kelly
I think that is fantastic. However your wife does her flirting, it clearly is not making you feel threatened like she is liable to cheat given the chance. It sounds like she's probably an open, friendly, warm, social person. And not doing anything that would make you feel insecure about her dedication to you.

I would be very interested to hear some examples of her flirting. What might she say or do that you consider flirting?

As for her good looks and great body - it sounds like she takes very good care of herself and likes showing off the results of her hard work. As long as you are feeling proud like "Yeah, that's my woman!" and not like she's trying to get attention from men because she's not fulfilled in her marriage, I think it's great. It sounds like her staying in good shape is something she works at for both of you.
 

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The fitness center my wife and I are members have a large poster on display of my wife in a bikini from her most recent contest she had won. Once again, the bikini reveals just about all of my wife's physical attributes and beauty......



Thanks from Wesley and Kelly

Where can I join this fitness centre? I would like to see this poster as it’s not so clear how revealing it is. I’m all for health & fitness, whether it’s revealing or not.
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This couple appears to be honest and upfront with each other, they are still in love with one another and are both happy. I am assuming that Kelly knows her boundaries and Wesley is good with that...so why are we not happy for them...marriages come in all shape and sizes.....it has never has been a one size fits all institution, what works for Wesley and Kelly may not work for others, but that is not our place to decide...not sure how long you both have been married but i hope you don't lose that spark that keeps that flame alive between you two.
 

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Hello, from both Kelly and Wesley.

Just an attempt to clarify. The initial post was just a reflection back to the negative opinions of my college buddies back in the day pertaining to Kelly not being worthy of marriage, yet these college buddies are now either divovced, or complain about their marriage, and / or the wife letting themselves go and out of shape. Of these so called college buddies I am the only one very happily married.

Kelly and I know our boudaries and extremely respectful of each other, in no way am I threatening by her flirting, it is as I said before just a natural extension of her out going enthusiastic personality.

An in shape well defined human body is in my mind is a sight of beauty, therefore even if Kelly is in a skimpy bikini it should not be body shame or produce name calling.

Hopefully this helps explain our prospective a bit better. From Kelly and Wesley and very happily married couple.
 

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Hello, from both Kelly and Wesley.



Just an attempt to clarify. The initial post was just a reflection back to the negative opinions of my college buddies back in the day pertaining to Kelly not being worthy of marriage, yet these college buddies are now either divovced, or complain about their marriage, and / or the wife letting themselves go and out of shape. Of these so called college buddies I am the only one very happily married.



Kelly and I know our boudaries and extremely respectful of each other, in no way am I threatening by her flirting, it is as I said before just a natural extension of her out going enthusiastic personality.



An in shape well defined human body is in my mind is a sight of beauty, therefore even if Kelly is in a skimpy bikini it should not be body shame or produce name calling.



Hopefully this helps explain our prospective a bit better. From Kelly and Wesley and very happily married couple.

Do you by chance have a post on another web site forum about having children by some other man of a different race?
 

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Hello, from both Wesley and Kelly.

Please, no reason for name calling. We are both educated professionals with meaningful lives. I just happen to enjoy keeping my body in top condition through exercise and nutrition with the challenge of competing against other like minded females
First, using your real names might not be the best idea.

Second, do you ever consider how other women may feel about you flirting it up with their husbands?
Or are you one of those who thinks they ought to be able to hack it it and "it's not my fault their husbands like my rack"
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From Kelly. Yes my husband and I have numerous friends along with myself having female friends. You guys are a rough crowd
We really prefer it if there is only one person using an account. I's confusing. You opened two accounts so why not have each of you use one of the accounts?
 

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First of all, I like to state I love my wife and her and I are happily married.

My wife, (Kelly), and I meet in college and I was drawn to her outgoing vibrant flirting personality and her fantastic body, blonde hair, and cute face.

My male friends kept forewarning me, Kelly is not the type girl I should date and heaven forbid marry due to her being too much of a flirt, having dated too many guys, and showing off her body too much.

Kelly and I married for who we each are, not to try to make changes in each other.

Of my male college friends who were wrong in telling me not to marry Kelly, are either divorced or unhappily married, whereas Kelly and I are very much in love and happily married.

To this day Kelly is very much of a flirt with men and that is just an extension of who she is as a person, vibrant and fun loving, all of which I fully accept.

Both Kelly and I, keep in shape with her being in fantastic shape. My wife's hobby and passion is to enter one or two bikini contest a year to show off her dedication to working out, nutrition, and fantastic physical attributes.

Are my wife's bikinis skimpy and revealing? Yes, very much so, from thongs that place her rear on public display to the tops that barely cover her boobs. But the bottom line her and I are very happy together and have left my negative college buddies to wallow in their disappointing marriages or state of divorce.

The fitness center my wife and I are members have a large poster on display of my wife in a bikini from her most recent contest she had won. Once again, the bikini reveals just about all of my wife's physical attributes and beauty......Yes but it also shows her hard work in training and nutrition and motivational for members of the club.

So after years of marriage, I love my flirty and exhibitionist wife and would not change on thing about her.

I would like to hear insights and feedback from other married couples with a wife thats tends to flirt and if it is a positive or negative.

Thanks from Wesley and Kelly
Why do you feel a need to defend your wife? Especially to defend her to people here who don't know her so have never said anything one way or the other about her until you posted this.

Sees odd to me.
 

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To me, a spouse who flirts (man or woman) shows disrespect of their own marriage and spouse.
When I've seen this happen, and I not only feel that they are disrespectful, it drops my level of respect for them. I actually don't hang out much anymore with a guy I know who is very flirty, and in fact when he was drunk, got a bit too flirty and started making out with someone not his wife. That's as far as it got because she was also drunk and wound up puking all over his tent which pretty much ended that. I pretty much lost any respect for him. If he wasn't so flirty and interactive with the woman, he wouldn't have gotten himself into the situation.

However, that being said, this is YOUR marriage. If you and your wife are ok with it, then don't worry about others.
 

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Welcome!

It's all good since you both seem to have an agreement that works for you.

I do caution you - people age. Be ready when 30-40 years pass by and things change a bit.

I've had an amazing body my whole life without much effort... but time does have a way of changing things.

Are you two ready for the days when age changes your body styles?

What will you do when the body is no longer perfect?
 

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Do you flirt? The fact that your first post on a message board called talk about marriage says to me you are not as cool with it as you want to think you are.
The fact that he named the thread "In defense of my flirting wife" made me wonder if he's really okay with it. If she's not doing anything wrong in his eyes, what is there to defend? But maybe he just says that because other people judge her flirting, like the ones who told him to avoid her when they first started seeing each other.
 

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Are my wife's bikinis skimpy and revealing? Yes, very much so, from thongs that place her rear on public display to the tops that barely cover her boobs. But the bottom line her and I are very happy together and have left my negative college buddies to wallow in their disappointing marriages or state of divorce.



The fitness center my wife and I are members have a large poster on display of my wife in a bikini from her most recent contest she had won. Once again, the bikini reveals just about all of my wife's physical attributes and beauty......Yes but it also shows her hard work in training and nutrition and motivational for members of the club.



Thanks from Wesley and Kelly


I still think it’s important if we could see the said poster, before giving thoughtful advice...
Whether this is a cuckold fantasy story or a real life dilemma (which is what?).
I would also be happy to put a half nude poster of my wife in my office but maybe not so much on public display. But then I probably wouldn’t get anything done and have sore wrists.
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@ Blues Power said: "and she is hot at 60 YO. "

I'm almost 66 years old man that has been around to a lot of countries met a lot of people, observed a lot of women.

I can say that a "hot" 60 years old woman is only relative to the age bracket of men that are looking at her. Women might or might not look awesome for their age, but like a said "hot" mostly relatively to the age bracket looking at her.
Almost without exception (but you always have those out fliers , LOL) a twenty something/thirtysomething, even fortysomething most probably will not think of a 60 years old woman as "hot", regardless of beauty.
Men from their fifties on, yes they might think of her as hot.

Just saying. But, probably I'm biased; I always went for the "hot ones" younger than me.
Now, I know I'll get the "heat" from some, LOL.
 

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First of all, I like to state I love my wife and her and I are happily married.

My wife, (Kelly), and I meet in college and I was drawn to her outgoing vibrant flirting personality and her fantastic body, blonde hair, and cute face.

My male friends kept forewarning me, Kelly is not the type girl I should date and heaven forbid marry due to her being too much of a flirt, having dated too many guys, and showing off her body too much.

Kelly and I married for who we each are, not to try to make changes in each other.

Of my male college friends who were wrong in telling me not to marry Kelly, are either divorced or unhappily married, whereas Kelly and I are very much in love and happily married.

To this day Kelly is very much of a flirt with men and that is just an extension of who she is as a person, vibrant and fun loving, all of which I fully accept.

Both Kelly and I, keep in shape with her being in fantastic shape. My wife's hobby and passion is to enter one or two bikini contest a year to show off her dedication to working out, nutrition, and fantastic physical attributes.

Are my wife's bikinis skimpy and revealing? Yes, very much so, from thongs that place her rear on public display to the tops that barely cover her boobs. But the bottom line her and I are very happy together and have left my negative college buddies to wallow in their disappointing marriages or state of divorce.

The fitness center my wife and I are members have a large poster on display of my wife in a bikini from her most recent contest she had won. Once again, the bikini reveals just about all of my wife's physical attributes and beauty......Yes but it also shows her hard work in training and nutrition and motivational for members of the club.

So after years of marriage, I love my flirty and exhibitionist wife and would not change on thing about her.

I would like to hear insights and feedback from other married couples with a wife thats tends to flirt and if it is a positive or negative.

Thanks from Wesley and Kelly
If you are happy to have a wife who flirts with other men, then fine. I see it was unloving and disrespectful, and BTW she can stop if she wants to.
If you are happy to have a wife who shows all she's got to all those other men and has no sense of modesty at all, then fine.

I would run a mile from such a person, and I can fully see why you were warned away. Things are ok now(although if they were REALLY OK you wouldn't be posting here asking for others opinions and experiences), but maybe not in the future. Flirting is playing with fire. Its also very disrespectful to the other men's wive's that she flirts with, whether they are there or not, so she isn't thinking of you or them nor of the men, many of whom will find it embarrassing and awkward.
 

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To me, a spouse who flirts (man or woman) shows disrespect of their own marriage and spouse.
When I've seen this happen, and I not only feel that they are disrespectful, it drops my level of respect for them. I actually don't hang out much anymore with a guy I know who is very flirty, and in fact when he was drunk, got a bit too flirty and started making out with someone not his wife. That's as far as it got because she was also drunk and wound up puking all over his tent which pretty much ended that. I pretty much lost any respect for him. If he wasn't so flirty and interactive with the woman, he wouldn't have gotten himself into the situation.

However, that being said, this is YOUR marriage. If you and your wife are ok with it, then don't worry about others.
Trouble is that its not just affecting them but the men she flirts with and their wives/partners.
 
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