In no sense am I saying that I was this perfect husband. I made mistakes but I owned up to them and am willing to change and get better for myself and my children. Its just hard for me to 180 her yet still be there for my kids. I tried expressing concerns about how my kids are starting to flounder in school and it turns into an argument. I back off Saturday,Sunday and Monday and she accuses me of being mad and ignoring her. "For what it's worth I hate That you're so mad at me." via text.
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I hope that maybe putting this in writing will help me figure this situation out. If im not depressed i sure missed a good chance at it 
. 1.) My mother passed away this last January. 2.)Bank Foreclosed on my house (Wife's grandparents) in March forcing me to move back into a trailer on my Dad's Property next to my Brother and Father. 3.) Company has work load cut in half so my Salary goes from $1200 a week to $500 a week. My wife gets a job as a waitress in local strip club after 12 week long job search. 4.) Due to lack of time with my wife we get in an argument before she heads to work on August 27th I say "We might as well be separated because I never see you!" She takes my kids and spends the night at her friends house says we can talk about it tomorrow (August 28th). I go to work planning on talking it out with her that evening come home to find her and my kids moved out and into an apartment in town. I agree to separation thinking its what she needs. I still see my kids Monday, Tuesday Mornings, Friday,Saturday, and Sunday. She keeps them Tuesday night, Wednesday night,Thursday Night when she is not working. a week later she says she wants a divorce (Sept 4th) tells me its the only way she can heal and feel good about herself. "No visitation agreement, we both see the kids when ever and they can float between houses, and no child support we will just split their expenses." I tell her I don't want a divorce that I want to work it out. She says she wants to file a non contested divorce agreement. I tell her that I love her and if she wants it that badly she can pay for it and I wont fight her. A couple of weeks pass kids floating between houses. I take her out to dinner to show her that I appreciate her. 5 minutes into dinner she starts talking about divorce again and asking that I not fight her on it. I tell her that I still don't want a divorce. She says she wants to date ALOT. I tell her that if she wants it that badly why had she not presented me with papers. She says that she didn't think a non contested divorce would be fair to me. Is it just me or is all of this moving way to fast? I mean today I have only been sepererated 2 months. I love my wife and I love my kids and I feel like they are stuck in the middle of a bad situation I only want to fix my marriage. Tonight when I dropped off my kids she's like do you ever think we can be just friend's? I just don't' know what to do anymore everything is moving to fast. Help me please.
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. 1.) My mother passed away this last January. 2.)Bank Foreclosed on my house (Wife's grandparents) in March forcing me to move back into a trailer on my Dad's Property next to my Brother and Father. 3.) Company has work load cut in half so my Salary goes from $1200 a week to $500 a week. My wife gets a job as a waitress in local strip club after 12 week long job search. 4.) Due to lack of time with my wife we get in an argument before she heads to work on August 27th I say "We might as well be separated because I never see you!" She takes my kids and spends the night at her friends house says we can talk about it tomorrow (August 28th). I go to work planning on talking it out with her that evening come home to find her and my kids moved out and into an apartment in town. I agree to separation thinking its what she needs. I still see my kids Monday, Tuesday Mornings, Friday,Saturday, and Sunday. She keeps them Tuesday night, Wednesday night,Thursday Night when she is not working. a week later she says she wants a divorce (Sept 4th) tells me its the only way she can heal and feel good about herself. "No visitation agreement, we both see the kids when ever and they can float between houses, and no child support we will just split their expenses." I tell her I don't want a divorce that I want to work it out. She says she wants to file a non contested divorce agreement. I tell her that I love her and if she wants it that badly she can pay for it and I wont fight her. A couple of weeks pass kids floating between houses. I take her out to dinner to show her that I appreciate her. 5 minutes into dinner she starts talking about divorce again and asking that I not fight her on it. I tell her that I still don't want a divorce. She says she wants to date ALOT. I tell her that if she wants it that badly why had she not presented me with papers. She says that she didn't think a non contested divorce would be fair to me. Is it just me or is all of this moving way to fast? I mean today I have only been sepererated 2 months. I love my wife and I love my kids and I feel like they are stuck in the middle of a bad situation I only want to fix my marriage. Tonight when I dropped off my kids she's like do you ever think we can be just friend's? I just don't' know what to do anymore everything is moving to fast. Help me please.Thanks In Advance
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And, do not ask her if she's doing this.This. I would start investigating discretely.
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If she isn't, she will say she isn't.
If she is, she will say she isn't.
Since we already know what she will say, there is no need to ask.
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