My wife of twenty-one years just hit me with she"s having an affair, and doesnt know what to do. Wants both of us! Hah! I will not share her. She had what i thought was the first affair at year two, while she was away for work. She told me, and we went through concilling. I remember the guy saying is there anything else we should be discussing? Nope nothing! Now 18 years later shes having another affair, and she broke down to share a couple more since. One just before we were engaged and one during the engagement. She said if I knew the real her I would have ended it right then and there, and most likely I would have! Now we have over twenty years, with the death of our boy from cancer, and the other is 16. She continues to see fantasy boy(OM) but keeps dangling the carrot for me. She just keeps saying things like, You were all i ever dreamed of and still are, and now i know i cant have you, so I may as well keep the om. I dont want to hurt two guys, ive done enough damage already! What a piece of work!
Shes thrown everyone whos ever loved her under the bus, by calling them insulting names, and pushing blame to them. Even her Father, Mother brother, sister, and all of my family and friends. She went so far to blame our church,and pastor. Our small bible study group women have tried in vain to speek to her, but she tells anyone who will listen that not one person has reached out to her. What a liar! I have Never seen such behavoir from her.The look in her eyes are scarey! We dated on and off for 13 years before our marriage, so its not like we didnt know each other. At the beginning I remember many arguments about her lieing ways, her father to this day can"t tell you the truth, so she has lived this along time!
I just moved out into an appt. She has my daughter and has moved to a new home. She continues to try and push the om into everyones face,saying he a wonderful man! All the adults on both sides have said, they dont want to see or meet the man that broke up this marriage. I commended them for that!The only person who cant defend is my daughter, and i really feel for her.Her tears say it all, and that just busts me up! Wife claims no damage at all! Thats all I've ever heard from her was the fact her folks split when she was 15. To this day she bad mouths that decision, and claims such selfishness! Wife always loved getting up on her high horse to tell all offenders they were doing wrong, now just a short time later, its this!
I wonder if theres drugs goin on, but she claims no, that would make some sence of this mess. Just wondering if I am doing the right things? I talk with my daughther each day, and remind her that shes loved, and this has nothing to do with her, and to call if she needs anything! anytime! day or night!
Could i Please get some other insight. I truly need another view! She said last night that I deserve much better than her. Why is she putting herself down now? trying for symphaty? thanks for any help!
Shes thrown everyone whos ever loved her under the bus, by calling them insulting names, and pushing blame to them. Even her Father, Mother brother, sister, and all of my family and friends. She went so far to blame our church,and pastor. Our small bible study group women have tried in vain to speek to her, but she tells anyone who will listen that not one person has reached out to her. What a liar! I have Never seen such behavoir from her.The look in her eyes are scarey! We dated on and off for 13 years before our marriage, so its not like we didnt know each other. At the beginning I remember many arguments about her lieing ways, her father to this day can"t tell you the truth, so she has lived this along time!
I just moved out into an appt. She has my daughter and has moved to a new home. She continues to try and push the om into everyones face,saying he a wonderful man! All the adults on both sides have said, they dont want to see or meet the man that broke up this marriage. I commended them for that!The only person who cant defend is my daughter, and i really feel for her.Her tears say it all, and that just busts me up! Wife claims no damage at all! Thats all I've ever heard from her was the fact her folks split when she was 15. To this day she bad mouths that decision, and claims such selfishness! Wife always loved getting up on her high horse to tell all offenders they were doing wrong, now just a short time later, its this!
I wonder if theres drugs goin on, but she claims no, that would make some sence of this mess. Just wondering if I am doing the right things? I talk with my daughther each day, and remind her that shes loved, and this has nothing to do with her, and to call if she needs anything! anytime! day or night!
Could i Please get some other insight. I truly need another view! She said last night that I deserve much better than her. Why is she putting herself down now? trying for symphaty? thanks for any help!