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I'm a bi-sexual life-long boyfriend/companion/lover (ahhhhh much more realistic)
Scrolling all the old threads in TAM i discovered that people are really mad about their spouse being bi-sexual.
I m going to tell you that i'm a bi-sexual men and in fact i actually had a relation with an older men (12 years older) for 18 months, a few years before dating my friend (my LTR "wife")
The relationship ended abruptly because he was actually married and have 3 kids (meaning that i m the OM according to his ex-w). It is because of this ****ty experience (harass by his wife for 6 months), thus i'm really content with women and will never ever date another men again (fear i guess :scratchhead
Anyways, back to the point. When i was befriended with my wife, she pretty much know that i m attracted to men and women at the same time and accept who and what i m in my mentality (and also she knows my previous homosexual relationship's a disaster and had hit me really hard). She understands that she cannot "compete" with a men thus she try hard to supplement the "male" aspects in our sexlife (ex. pegging, and me doing oral to a dildo, etc).
I know most wives or husbands were shocked that their spouses are bi-sexual or even gay/lesbian. Let me tell you that being bi is not really into the same gender, it is some of the most common misunderstanding of how bi-sexuality works.
I know that it hurts a-lot when you just know your partner is a bi years after the marriage. Do you think that being honest to your date about your sexuality in the first place will prevent hurt and suffering in the long term? (just wondering because sexual-orientation is quite a common thing now-days)
Also will you accept and who and what the spouse really is after being in the fog for years.
Btw after i got burnt from the relationship when i saw a men in the streets i still tell my wife (honestly) that i still have a level of lust on men thus i m more like
-emotional attachment to men:closed
-physical attration to men: still open
p.s please don't judge me from what i m (just sayin)
Scrolling all the old threads in TAM i discovered that people are really mad about their spouse being bi-sexual.
I m going to tell you that i'm a bi-sexual men and in fact i actually had a relation with an older men (12 years older) for 18 months, a few years before dating my friend (my LTR "wife")
The relationship ended abruptly because he was actually married and have 3 kids (meaning that i m the OM according to his ex-w). It is because of this ****ty experience (harass by his wife for 6 months), thus i'm really content with women and will never ever date another men again (fear i guess :scratchhead
Anyways, back to the point. When i was befriended with my wife, she pretty much know that i m attracted to men and women at the same time and accept who and what i m in my mentality (and also she knows my previous homosexual relationship's a disaster and had hit me really hard). She understands that she cannot "compete" with a men thus she try hard to supplement the "male" aspects in our sexlife (ex. pegging, and me doing oral to a dildo, etc).
I know most wives or husbands were shocked that their spouses are bi-sexual or even gay/lesbian. Let me tell you that being bi is not really into the same gender, it is some of the most common misunderstanding of how bi-sexuality works.
I know that it hurts a-lot when you just know your partner is a bi years after the marriage. Do you think that being honest to your date about your sexuality in the first place will prevent hurt and suffering in the long term? (just wondering because sexual-orientation is quite a common thing now-days)
Also will you accept and who and what the spouse really is after being in the fog for years.
Btw after i got burnt from the relationship when i saw a men in the streets i still tell my wife (honestly) that i still have a level of lust on men thus i m more like
-emotional attachment to men:closed
-physical attration to men: still open
p.s please don't judge me from what i m (just sayin)