Have you tried alcohol? They call it panty remover for a reason and it sounds like your wife could use to relax anyways...
I have seen this 15 hour mark mentioned before on here (might have been from you but I think it was multiple posters actually). I'm curious how many people actually can reach that. I think it's agreat target but is it really realistic? I know you mean more than just sittinga round watching TV together, so what all counts towards this 15 hour mark?Do the two of you date? Go out... away from kids/house/chores? Have fun? Laugh? Play?
For at LEAST 15 hours a week.
Ya know.... like you did before the kids/bills/chores.
I don't know what threads you're reading. But, most of us will tell you that helping with chores will very rarely result in more sex.From the advice on this board, you would think my extra effort would net me a roll in the hay with my wife once and awhile. Sorry to burst anyone's bubble out there, but it's not as simple as that.
No. Your needs are valid. Maybe you will have to compromise your needs and accept less than sex 3-4 times a week. But, you're already doing that. So getting closer to your desired frequency isn't an unreasonable goal.My wife has made me feel guilty and selfish about my need for sex, but should I be?
Is this a trick question? Is "at face value" not an option?Not long ago, she even told me to "do her" no matter how tired she was or how much she might reject me. Now how am I supposed to take that?
If she asks you to, it's not rape.The last thing I’m going to do is rape my wife.
Was that after she told you to ignore her rejections?In the past, I have tried making a second advance after being rejected on the first, and I'll tell ya, it ain't a pleasant experience.
Married Man Sex Life | How to have the marriage you thought you were going to have. By which I mean doing it like rabbits.So if anyone out there has overcome a similar experience, please let me know what worked for you. I’m all ears.
Yeah, but this is a big area. This isn't the same as saying that your marriage is great, except your wife doesn't like playing backgammon with you. No big deal. This is sex. This is a big deal. This is, potentially, a deal breaker.Just to be clear, the other aspects of our marriage are fantastic.
There's usually two different explanations for why women don't want to talk about sex. First, she has decided to withhold sex from you and understands that this hurts you. Obviously, she can't very well announce that she has unilaterally decided that you should be having less sex, so tough cookies. So, she doesn't want to talk about it. She makes an excuse and, if you don't buy it, gets defensive and wants to change the subject.I get mixed messages from wife and trying to talk to her about it is like throwing gas on fire.
That's because you accept your wife's premise that her needs trump yours. Once you've both accepted that, any argument is going to be short and you will lose.It amazes me how the table gets turned and I end up feeling guilty or selfish.
Of course. Your wife isn't stupid. She knows she can give you some begrudging sex for a week and then it will take you another 3 months to screw up the nerve to make it an issue again. Winning!If I do manage to make some sort of headway, the additional sex is normally short lived. Usually for about a week or so and then we're back into the same old routine.
I think you have gotten such suggestions. Take action. And b!tching to your wife doesn't count as action. Do something else. Run the MAP. Lower the thermostat. Run a 180. Change your behavior.I know it was a long shot, but I was hoping for a suggestion that I hadn't thought of yet.
If your position is that your wife can't disregard you enough to make you leave her, and she knows that, then you're correct. Just sit down, shut up, and try to enjoy the crumbs.In the end, I may just have to suck it up, yank one out every now and then and live with things as they are. It's not ideal, but I love my wife too much and I can't see myself ever leaving her.
No, it's not. Average frequency for married couples is a little more than twice a week. Once a week isn't awful. But, it's half the average rate. Once a month meets the clinical definition of a sexless marriage. Wake up, man.Sorry, but I dont think you have any issue at all. Your wife enjoys sex and is active. Whats the problem. Once a week or even a month is very lucky.