[Julie's Husband]

Yup. It is impossible for me to imagine anyone else in her place. Very emotionally invested in her.

 

[Julie's Husband]

If you had the choice to start my life again, not only would I still choose to be with my Beloved Hubby--I'd choose to meet him in 1986 and have him be my one and only! I wish I had been wise enough to wait for the right man!

Sometimes I wish that my wife had been my first.

 

[Julie's Husband]

Maybe...

You now have others to compare her to, and favorably!

The others just wanted casual or recreational sex, so there is no relationship building to use as comparison.

 

[Julie's Husband]

To add on in response to the OP edit, I made most of my mistakes before meeting my wife. It's a wonder I ever made it that far.

I wonder whether I would have been able to give her a chance to take our office chum relationship to the next level without having had to start over from scratch in my world view and self image after the women before her shattered the world and self I thought I knew.

And I would make serious changes in how we raised our daughter. I would have worked on teaching her to be stronger in herself and make her own decisions.