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......should you just go ahead and split it evenly two ways? Because there's no way that either person should be soley in charge of it all, or eventually there will be deep resentment and heavy arguing over what can and can't be bought with the jackpot winnings.
 

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For example: let's say we're sitting on $200 million clear and I decide I wanna buy a $150,000 Ferrari to go joy riding on weekends but my wife says "NO", do you think for one minute that I will accept that answer sitting on that much money(hell no). Or if let's say my wife sees a beach house for sale for maybe $250,000 and she has to have it but I try and say "NO", she will first tell me to kiss her azz and then seconds later will be on the phone with the realtor setting up the purchase.

And in our state it's a law that any lottery or inheritance winnings that take place while married is a guaranteed split two ways if you choose to do so, so why not just go ahead and do that and avoid all the fighting and conflict that will probably end the marriage anyway.
 

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Well, even though we never play lottery, we discussed what we would do if a winning ticket ever came our way.
Some would be invested, some given to our kids & the rest divided between the 2 of us so that we could do what we wanted with it.
And we are lucky here in Oz, you don't pay tax on winnings. That is until you spend it & pay the consumption tax.
 

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Well, even though we never play lottery, we discussed what we would do if a winning ticket ever came our way.
Some would be invested, some given to our kids & the rest divided between the 2 of us so that we could do what we wanted with it.
And we are lucky here in Oz, you don't pay tax on winnings. That is until you spend it & pay the consumption tax.
See my wife disagrees and was hypathetically talking earlier today about what "SHE" would have us do with the winnings, and that "SHE" would hire us a good lawyer and accountant to handle everything and tell us how to spend and invest it all. But I told her flat out that if "WE" won that much money that she would no longer be in charge of my finances, and that we would either split it two ways as a married couple or two ways as a......divorced one.
 

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I must be different or something. That much money would be handled how we handle finances now. Open communication, portion to savings, kids funds, investments and a few perks we both want or one or the other wants.

We'd still follow our budget too. Money makes you comfortable not happy.

Mum always said "money and material things come and go, people don't"
 

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We have talked about it too... Hey, every one should dream a bit.... We might argue slightly over the exact style of the house, but I would give in to her on that. It being totally off grid isn't something she is excited about, but she wouldn't say no.

The rest? We would probably get a small sports car just for her and I to drive, but we are happy with both our vehicles. There are LOTS of things in our community that we would love to do... As we started talking about it, we realized that we would need to win several times to be able to afford to do all the things we would want to do.

I would think that if you had trouble coming to agreements in your daily life, then a big lotto would just amplify that. If you already can work together and compromise, then it shouldn't cause issues.
 

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If it's a healthy marriage then there is no "his money/her money". It's all in a joint account and financial decisions are discussed and made together. There's really no other legitimate answer.

I've never understood couples that keep separate accounts. There's no trust right from the get-go.
 

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If it's a healthy marriage then there is no "his money/her money". It's all in a joint account and financial decisions are discussed and made together. There's really no other legitimate answer.

I've never understood couples that keep separate accounts. There's no trust right from the get-go.
Exactly! I really don't understand this either. Large purchases, whether something he wants or something I want, we agree on it or it doesn't get done...period. It doesn't matter if we have only $500 or $500million... same principle applies... agree on the purchase together, or it doesn't get purchased. There is no "his and hers" money... it is OURS.
 

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I must be different or something. That much money would be handled how we handle finances now. Open communication, portion to savings, kids funds, investments and a few perks we both want or one or the other wants.

We'd still follow our budget too. Money makes you comfortable not happy.

Mum always said "money and material things come and go, people don't"
Beach Guy said: If it's a healthy marriage then there is no "his money/her money". It's all in a joint account and financial decisions are discussed and made together. There's really no other legitimate answer.

I've never understood couples that keep separate accounts. There's no trust right from the get-go.
This is how we look at it ...both of these fine posts.

The only time we even played in the past was when the guys at his workplace went in together ~ cause we'd look pretty stupid & it would royally suck if all the employees won & he was the only one left out.
 

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We've this same discussion & decided that we would pay off all debt, give some to our family & then we would live off the interest, while socking the rest away.
The set up would be that each year, we each would be given a set amount of money, what we did with the money would be up to us, if he wanted to buy a sports car, he would, as I would too, if I wanted to fund animal rescues, I would, just as he could do whatever he wanted to do with his share of his yearly funds.
Neither of us wants to buy a big fancy house, just a nice place, with land, where we could get away from all the people looking for handouts. ;)
 

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I must be different or something. That much money would be handled how we handle finances now. Open communication, portion to savings, kids funds, investments and a few perks we both want or one or the other wants.

We'd still follow our budget too. Money makes you comfortable not happy.

Mum always said "money and material things come and go, people don't"
This exactly. There would be no mine or yours... It would be "ours" in my relationship. We would discuss how much to put away for the kids, then most likely pay off all our bills and start up some businesses. Hell if gate wanted a ferrarie and we had that much money... I would tell him to go for it. I know if I seen a house that I wanted he would support me in getting it.
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To put it in a different way; right now my wife is the boss of our finances simply because she makes more than twice than I do and always has, and I like buying cool stuff but it always has to be cleared through her and a lot of times I am told "no" for various reasons. But if we were to win that ridiculous amount money I'll be damned if her or anyone is going to tell me what I can and can't buy, and if she didn't like it then she is free to split it in half with me or..........take her half and leave.
 

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To put it in a different way; right now my wife is the boss of our finances simply because she makes more than twice than I do and always has, and I like buying cool stuff but it always has to be cleared through her and a lot of times I am told "no" for various reasons. But if we were to win that ridiculous amount money I'll be damned if her or anyone is going to tell me what I can and can't buy, and if she didn't like it then she is free to split it in half with me or..........take her half and leave.
Does she have to run things by you when purchases things?

I manage our money, not because I'm the boss, but because I'm a little better with keeping up with the day to day needs money wise.
He makes almost 3x what I bring in, as I only work part time, but all of our money is ours. We each get the equal amounts of spending money after bills and savings etc. but we also discuss big purchases over a certain dollar amount that we agreed upon.

I'd like to hope that if we ever came into a large sum like that, we'd continue to manage our finances the same way.

ETA: corrected-sorry I had way to many errors in this post.
 
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