I'd like to share a marriage tip that has worked wonders over the years. It is very simple but it has been immensely helpful in maintaining the pleasurable intimacy that typically wanes in a marriage. It's a way to trigger sexual desire in a man whose mind might otherwise be more occupied with the problems of the day. This is the way it works: Insert a night-light in a power strip and place it on the floor near the head of the bed on his side. Turn this light on and the other lights in the bedroom off at night as part of your bedtime preparation routine. When you are both in bed and ready to shut off the night-light, he (the closest one to the light) leans over and turns it off. However, that's the procedure only when she is ill or not feeling up to it. Otherwise, the "understanding" is that he is "just to tired to turn it off", so she crawls over him to reach the light and shuts it off while he lies on his back holding her to keep her from falling off the side of the bed while greatly enjoying the experience. The only "issue" here is that it can be very difficult for him to breathe during this process. Matter of fact, if he can breath while this is going on, you are not doing it right! Try it and share what works for you.