I wonder whether my wife is truly and honestly okay with this

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Julie's Husband

Or suspicious? How would your wife react? Ever been in here?

Most of my medical providers and massage therapists now are women except the cardiologist and endocrinologist. I think the relation with the endocrinologist will be short term, so down to one male provider.

Dentist
Urologist
PA (PCP)
Medical oncologist dealing with hormones

And a second urologist who will be helping me with checking to see whether I'm having the normal amount of nocturnal erections.

I am actually very body shy and need to make sure I'm comfortable with each visit. For instance, the urologist testing my nocturnal erections may ask me to produce erections in the office to baseline the gear. I think I can handle the setup myself at home so I'm hoping she will not insist on doing it at the office. If so, I will insist on my doing the placing of the sensors while everyone else is out of the room and having a modesty blanket during the procedure. She doesn't need to see the erection as she will be able to record it on the device.

I definitely have some anxiety about that appointment.

Just in case, I asked my wife how she felt about another woman checking my erections. She says, "Okay, if that's what's needed." Probably comparing it to women dealing with male OBGYNs, but doesn't mean she is actually any more comfortable with it than I am.

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Julie's Husband

Discussion Starter · #161 · 3 mo ago

Divinely Favored said:
A massage can very much be medical. I had a muscle balled up in my back that had me down, after a MT got done, it has not returned.

I very much regret not beginning to have massage earlier. It has been an outstanding alternative to meds for depression, pre cataract surgery anxiety and generally getting out of my head long enough to live life.

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boscolim1010

· #162 · 23 d ago

Should seek for medical professionals.

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Julie's Husband

Discussion Starter · #163 · 23 d ago

boscolim1010 said:
Should seek for medical professionals.

Why so?

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SpeedyMcGee

· #164 · 23 d ago

My endocrinologist is a woman and all her nurses are women. When she's inserting testosterone pellets into my butt cheek I'm laying face down butt exposed to the world. It's a pretty embarrassing position, only if you make it weird. They are total professionals about it, and we were talking about cars while she was doing it last time so when we were done she wanted to see my new truck as she was curious about trading her car for one.

Point being it's business for them and you can make it business for you too. It won't be weird if you don't make it weird basically. This doctor's job is testing boners, she does it all day long and couldn't care less about yours. My wife doesn't even register that as a concern on the concern scale, she was much more concerned over the safety of TRT than she is who administers. Same with your wife I'm sure, she's concerned with your health that the doctor is good, not that you are banging your doctor.

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Julie's Husband

Discussion Starter · #165 · 22 d ago

SpeedyMcGee said:
My endocrinologist is a woman and all her nurses are women. When she's inserting testosterone pellets into my butt cheek I'm laying face down butt exposed to the world. It's a pretty embarrassing position, only if you make it weird. They are total professionals about it, and we were talking about cars while she was doing it last time so when we were done she wanted to see my new truck as she was curious about trading her car for one.

Point being it's business for them and you can make it business for you too. It won't be weird if you don't make it weird basically. This doctor's job is testing boners, she does it all day long and couldn't care less about yours. My wife doesn't even register that as a concern on the concern scale, she was much more concerned over the safety of TRT than she is who administers. Same with your wife I'm sure, she's concerned with your health that the doctor is good, not that you are banging your doctor.

Testosterone pellets in the buttocks? Never heard of that method of administration. I've twice had a gastro doc band off my hemorrhoids while a diverse group of students looked on, so not a major deal but I probably would not consent again.

Modest is modest and what others are feeling or thinking is irrelevant. They are not the ones whose sense of dignity is being violated. Maybe if they were in an equally vulnerable position what they think might mean something.

I spent a few weeks sweating out how I would deal with the exams, how I would manage who was in the room as chaprone (med types only, no non med desk jockeys). Some times I had an academic sense, sometimes a vulnerable sense.

In the end I've decided that many inhibitions are just knee jerk defense and may not really be what I feel. I'm doing away with some. Nudity in front of others other than nude glutes for the massage therapist and health care providers and permitting anyone other than my wife view or touch me when erect are still questions.

I actually wish I'd had to do the exams so I could have a realistic idea of how I would respond and how I would manage the situation.

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Divinely Favored

· #166 · 22 d ago

Julie's Husband said:
Testosterone pellets in the buttocks? Never heard of that method of administration. I've twice had a gastro doc band off my hemorrhoids while a diverse group of students looked on, so not a major deal but I probably would not consent again.

Modest is modest and what others are feeling or thinking is irrelevant. They are not the ones whose sense of dignity is being violated. Maybe if they were in an equally vulnerable position what they think might mean something.

I spent a few weeks sweating out how I would deal with the exams, how I would manage who was in the room as chaprone (med types only, no non med desk jockeys). Some times I had an academic sense, sometimes a vulnerable sense.

In the end I've decided that many inhibitions are just knee jerk defense and may not really be what I feel. I'm doing away with some. Nudity in front of others other than nude glutes for the massage therapist and health care providers and permitting anyone other than my wife view or touch me when erect are still questions.

I actually wish I'd had to do the exams so I could have a realistic idea of how I would respond and how I would manage the situation.

They are implanted in hip above rear pocket more to side. Did it once, no more. I rather use compounded cream, rub in 3 clicks each morning and you are GTG. Not near the expense either as the pellets were not covered by BCBS.

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SpeedyMcGee

· #167 · 22 d ago

Divinely Favored said:
They are implanted in hip above rear pocket more to side. Did it once, no more. I rather use compounded cream, rub in 3 clicks each morning and you are GTG. Not near the expense either as the pellets were not covered by BCBS.

Mine isn’t covered anyways. The cream is an issue because if someone else touches where it was they could get a dose. I don’t want my wife looking like Yosemite Sam. My test wasn’t low enough for insurance to pick it up but 360 is low when you’re not even 40. It’s just not out of their joke range that covers 18 year olds and 80 year olds.

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SpeedyMcGee

· #168 · 22 d ago

SpeedyMcGee said:
Mine isn’t covered anyways. The cream is an issue because if someone else touches where it was they could get a dose. I don’t want my wife looking like Yosemite Sam. My test wasn’t low enough for insurance to pick it up but 360 is low when you’re not even 40. It’s just not out of their joke range that covers 18 year olds and 80 year olds.

Honestly I'd almost rather it wasn't covered under insurance. The medical care you get when paying cash is far superior to insurance mandated coverage. Which means I get full panel blood tests quarterly and extra supplements to make sure I don't get any side effects of TRT, my test doesn't go too high or too low and everything remains healthy. Insurance companies just want you treated with the bare minimum and I'm not a bare minimum type of guy.

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Julie's Husband

Discussion Starter · #169 · 22 d ago (Edited)

SpeedyMcGee said:
Honestly I'd almost rather it wasn't covered under insurance. The medical care you get when paying cash is far superior to insurance mandated coverage. Which means I get full panel blood tests quarterly and extra supplements to make sure I don't get any side effects of TRT, my test doesn't go too high or too low and everything remains healthy. Insurance companies just want you treated with the bare minimum and I'm not a bare minimum type of guy.

When on TRT is the bio available testosterone monitored or just the total testosterone?

Doctors, insurance companies, the CDC and all the rest provide care based on statistics. Those of us in the middle of the bell curve get the care we need, those of us in the tails of the bell curve get screwed. This is why I hear from so many men under age 60 with stage 4 prostate cancer; they were outside the CDC guidelines when they first developed cancer and were at a point where the cancer was manageable.

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