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My marriage goes from great to horrible. Right now, it is horrible. For the last couple of months, the only times we have been intimate have been after I push and push and push and finally get 'duty' sex. Maybe every 10 days or so.
I try to establish boundaries, have a huge fight and try to explain that I won't live like this. But she doesn't listen or care. We are in the middle of one of those fights now.
How do you make someone care? How do you make someone want you? I have read MMSL. I am not Beta. I do some of those things. At times, I tell her, not ask her. I work out a few times a week.
When we fight about it. She accuses me of only caring about sex. My kids are older (a couple out of high school) but they still live at home. They know that we fight about how cold my wife is to me (affectionately and sexually).
How do you leave a marriage over sex? I feel like I will look like a shallow person. I am pro-marriage. Virtually nobody in my family is divorced.
It would be easier if she cheated on me. I could leave the marriage with a 'valid' reason.
I try to establish boundaries, have a huge fight and try to explain that I won't live like this. But she doesn't listen or care. We are in the middle of one of those fights now.
How do you make someone care? How do you make someone want you? I have read MMSL. I am not Beta. I do some of those things. At times, I tell her, not ask her. I work out a few times a week.
When we fight about it. She accuses me of only caring about sex. My kids are older (a couple out of high school) but they still live at home. They know that we fight about how cold my wife is to me (affectionately and sexually).
How do you leave a marriage over sex? I feel like I will look like a shallow person. I am pro-marriage. Virtually nobody in my family is divorced.
It would be easier if she cheated on me. I could leave the marriage with a 'valid' reason.