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Like many others, I found this sight while 'googling' phrases like "top ten signs your spouse is cheating."...and like many others here, spent about 2-3 weeks not wanting to believe I wasn't dreaming, and that she really had decided to end our marriage. Thanks for all the upfront and honest (honesty, what a great concept..) comments found on this board. More than a few times, the mere existence of this board kept me from opening my mouth, and unleashing the dragon that my bride has slitheringly become after 15 years of marriage, one 10 year old son(whom truly is all I care about currently), and a laundry list of things I have done in the past that she cannot forget, let alone forgive...(I know, sounds familiar...)
I will admit, I am not perfect, and am definately part of the reason she has decided to move on, and has fallen out of love (^^^see also : "I love you, I"m just not in love with you.)
Right now, she is approximately 50 miles away (installed gps tracker, begrudgingly, after reading some posts here, THANK YOU>) Now that normally wouldn't be a problem in and of itself...it's just that she was supposed to be 20 miles away, having taken advantage of my generous "favor" to watch our son last night so she could go out with some girlfriends drinking, with the possibility of staying on a couch vs. driving.(red flagsl~!)
A couple hours after she left, I checked the tracker, and imagine my surprise when I realized she was across the next state border, going 87 mph. Long and short of it, she spent the night at one of her FB friends house...a male, whom she's known since high school....insert script, it fits to a T.
Well, when I saw that she was on the way back, I sent her a text asking where she'd gone to party, and stayed knowing I would have a timestamped response that clearly would not match up with documented GPS coordinates. Rather than being truthful..she explained that she "slept on the couch"...
Recent odd behavior:
--October 31: Declared that we are seperated, and either I move out, or she would. In a pathetic gesture of salvation, I moved to a hotel for a week, but then convinced her I needed more time to prepare, it was not fiscally possible.
--taking birth control pills even though she has cut me off sexually, well, physically. If I try to touch her while we are in bed, she gets up, and hits the couch. Now this is entirely new. 16 years of 2-3 times a week now zero for the past three weeks.
--cell phone guardian, takes it to the bath, to work, to bed to everywhere. it is 'off limits' to me though. I've been trying for 3 weeks to get it to load spyware to no avail.
--on Facebook constantly, 340ish 'friends'...
--spent 3 of 4 full weekends away from home last month: excuses: camping with girl from work and her boyfriend(my wife has repeatedly hated the idea of us going camping..."eww~~!!! No shower, no way."
--has somehow decided that this is ALL my fault, and that I have never been worth a damn...she's wasted 15 years of her life, etc.
So, right now I'm contemplating hiding her birth control pills, since she forgot to take them with her last night...and given the circumstances, I imagine she will freak oout in a big way. I have a VAR , and plan on asking her "What's the big deal? I Thought they were to regulate your period..." Thoughts? She'll be here relatively soon, so am hopeful I can get some/any feedback. Sorry for the long post.
Addin: forgot to mention, she got a letter from "The Clinic" and had tested negative for all stds! She's never gotten them run before-am wondering if OM requested to protect family
Addin2: on the way home apparently her foot, or knee crunched the gps (plugin to OBDII port)-so, no more tracking for now, and am out $169...best $ I ever spent on her.
I will admit, I am not perfect, and am definately part of the reason she has decided to move on, and has fallen out of love (^^^see also : "I love you, I"m just not in love with you.)
Right now, she is approximately 50 miles away (installed gps tracker, begrudgingly, after reading some posts here, THANK YOU>) Now that normally wouldn't be a problem in and of itself...it's just that she was supposed to be 20 miles away, having taken advantage of my generous "favor" to watch our son last night so she could go out with some girlfriends drinking, with the possibility of staying on a couch vs. driving.(red flagsl~!)
A couple hours after she left, I checked the tracker, and imagine my surprise when I realized she was across the next state border, going 87 mph. Long and short of it, she spent the night at one of her FB friends house...a male, whom she's known since high school....insert script, it fits to a T.
Well, when I saw that she was on the way back, I sent her a text asking where she'd gone to party, and stayed knowing I would have a timestamped response that clearly would not match up with documented GPS coordinates. Rather than being truthful..she explained that she "slept on the couch"...
Recent odd behavior:
--October 31: Declared that we are seperated, and either I move out, or she would. In a pathetic gesture of salvation, I moved to a hotel for a week, but then convinced her I needed more time to prepare, it was not fiscally possible.
--taking birth control pills even though she has cut me off sexually, well, physically. If I try to touch her while we are in bed, she gets up, and hits the couch. Now this is entirely new. 16 years of 2-3 times a week now zero for the past three weeks.
--cell phone guardian, takes it to the bath, to work, to bed to everywhere. it is 'off limits' to me though. I've been trying for 3 weeks to get it to load spyware to no avail.
--on Facebook constantly, 340ish 'friends'...
--spent 3 of 4 full weekends away from home last month: excuses: camping with girl from work and her boyfriend(my wife has repeatedly hated the idea of us going camping..."eww~~!!! No shower, no way."
--has somehow decided that this is ALL my fault, and that I have never been worth a damn...she's wasted 15 years of her life, etc.
So, right now I'm contemplating hiding her birth control pills, since she forgot to take them with her last night...and given the circumstances, I imagine she will freak oout in a big way. I have a VAR , and plan on asking her "What's the big deal? I Thought they were to regulate your period..." Thoughts? She'll be here relatively soon, so am hopeful I can get some/any feedback. Sorry for the long post.
Addin: forgot to mention, she got a letter from "The Clinic" and had tested negative for all stds! She's never gotten them run before-am wondering if OM requested to protect family
Addin2: on the way home apparently her foot, or knee crunched the gps (plugin to OBDII port)-so, no more tracking for now, and am out $169...best $ I ever spent on her.