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Okay, I have a very strong desire to have anal sex with my wife. I am afraid to even suggest it since I know the answer is going to be no. She joked about it as I have with her about shoving something in my butt too. I don't want anything shoved in my butt. I can't help but wanting to try it with her though. Neither one of us have ever tried it. She lets me rub her butthole but won't let the finger go in. I know, or have heard of, so many women enjoying it and cumming from it. There are oh two positions we do it: missionary and cowgirl. I would kill for some damn doggy style to enjoy watching her butt too. I am an assman all the way. That would be a nice start. I would love to have marriage with some excitement in regards to sex.

Just venting and watch porn with anal as well as doggy style often to satisfy that desire. Any suggestions?
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Just the opposite here, but with the same outcome. Wife is highly anal erotic, but IT JUST WON'T FIT.... It has led to some frustrations, but we just kinda moved on. As far as your wife, if she would be willing to watch some porm with small doses of anal, she might gradually be more accepting....
 

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Welcome to the club.
We tried anal once and she didn't like it. I think we just went about it wrong the first time. If I can ever regain some desire back from her, I plan on trying again, but this time with some education about the process.
 

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slip a finger in when you are going down on her if she doesnt kick you in the head and blacken both your eyes atleast you opened the door and have a slim chance
 

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if you want to try doggie just flip her over and do it. just start moving into new positions. don't ask, just do it.
Better know your wife if you want that to succeed. I have been told on several occasions that if I want to try something new, I have to go down to the county seat and get a notarized document, in triplicate, outlining the specifics of the request so that she can get her head around the problem well in advance.

"Just do it" works for Nike, but it gets me a trip to pouting room.
 

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I agree with the 'just do it' for doggie style, but I don't recommend it for anal.

I don't want anything near my butt hole. My wife says she doesn't want anything near hers. But when I go down on her and she is really getting into it and I brush hers with my finger, I can tell she really likes it. If I do it too soon though, it turns her off. Touching her butt hole at the right time will often bring her to climax. I have tried to push it and insert a finger and that kills the mood. She doesn't like that, but she likes the touching. She just will never admit it.
 

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Sam...I think my wife is the same about not admitting to enjoying the touch. She's certainly said no more anal, but the last time we masturbated each other, we both ended up finger rubbing each others butt holes.
 

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if you want to try doggie just flip her over and do it. just start moving into new positions. don't ask, just do it.
First anal sex (full penetration) isn't for everyone. If you really want to try and she is hesitant then start really slow desensitizing her to the idea. Every once in a while pat her on the butt, when your having sex do a lot of fondling back there..compliment the view often. Once she seems to like that attention start rimming her back there, go to bed spooning her..preferably nude...don't forget to compliment how great it is to cuddle her from the behind. Once she is accepting of this attention take it a little farther... this could take weeks depending how squeamish she is. Letting her do anal on you first is always a good start...once I started doing anal (prostate messages) on my husband I started getting curious about it for me. Still took me 6 months to try it for the first time. It took a couple months to accommodate my husband. He BIG and uncircumcised, so he is long and wide. We had a lot of ow, ow, double ow sessions....there were many a times I would say "never again", but he wanted it so bad we just kept trying. Anal lube is a must, not regular lube if she is tight and you big. You can also get anal lube with a numbing agent in it for first timers. Good luck!
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I should clarify myself. I didn't mean just do it for anal. As for anal, she might not ever want to do it and you just have to accept that.

I meant for trying other positions. I don't see how anyone could be upset with that when you are in the moment. Don't people just roll around the bed from one position to the next spontaneously?
 

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I meant for trying other positions. I don't see how anyone could be upset with that when you are in the moment. Don't people just roll around the bed from one position to the next spontaneously?
Not always. Sometimes it is just one position until we finish. If we don't finish, then we try something different until the climax happens. Then it is over.
 

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Don't people just roll around the bed from one position to the next spontaneously?
Uhhh no? Not always. Maybe a couple positions, but not "rolling around" from "one position to the next"....at least not us, anyway.
 

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Took me about 6 years of marriage to even warm up to the idea of my husband even touching anywhere back there, but once I allowed myself to be ok with the idea and researched a bit about it, I felt a lot more comfortable. I find it awkward to discuss still, but we're getting there. We got some toys for each other and are planning on trying it out, so long as we can manage not to get into any more stupid fights :/.. I digress, there was one site that I found where the women were so for it and described it so nicely that it made me want to try it instead of just think about possibly maybe considering trying it.. lol. I can't seem to find it now though :(

Here is another site I found that I really liked however, you could maybe give the link to your wife:
10 Steps to Great First Time Anal Sex


Edit: Not sure why the link is showing twice, sorry :(

10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex « Sex Secrets
 
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