I meet my husband 3 years ago but we only dated long distance for 8 months before we got married. It was a whirlwind romance and I was really nice, kind, giving, and sweet but I changed because he lied to me alot and he would not keep his word about anything. He is also very passive. He will agree to do things just to make me happy but then silently resentment me. He would only say how he really felt during arguments. He does not feel lilke his needs are important so he does not communicate them, which makes it hard to know what to do or what makes him happy.
His parents divorced when he was about 13 years old. His father cheated on his mother and left her with 3 kids. So this is his example for relationships. He has admitted that he cheated on most of the women he dated and never really cared for anyone. By the way, he is almost 40 years old.
As previously mentioned, we dated long distance for 8 months. His roommate was his sister's best friend, a very disrespectul female. She is a long time family friend and let me know that she and my husband had never had a relationship other than big brother to little sister type connection. She was in a relationship but I just did not feel comfortable watching them interact. I spoke with him about boundaries in month 5 but nothing changed. I felt like he did not protect me in that situation. Its like it was my fault that me and the roommate did not get along.
He did quit his job and relocate to my state in order to give our relationship a chance. I did tell him that I would support him while he was building his business with his family. After promising that we would get married, he decided against it. I broke up with him and stopped talking to him for one month. I allowed him back into my life and he did the same thing, broken promises but I gave him another chance after he proposed at least 10 times because I guess I wanted to be married and have a family with him.
Well after we got married in July 2012, he moved into my home. I dont know what happened. I pay most of the bills. He does contribute when I ask him but I just feel some sort of way still. I just lost respect for him somewhere along the way.
Its like I have to tell him how a husband should be and he is almost 40 years old, the roommate and her fiance also moved here so I have to deal with the disrespect still and we are married now, and he does not communicate well.
I started kicking him out of my house and making him go back to his live/work space, calling him names, throwing objects, and pushing his face with my finger. We argue every other day.
On yesterday, I tried to talk to him about boundaries with the old roommate since she lives in our town and we saw her at a family gathering. As usual she was rude as heck. He said he would stop talking to her but I was trying to communicate and meet somewhere in the middle. I just wanted him to reassure me but he became angry then I became angry.
I kicked him out for the fourth time, I threw a 12 pack of sodas at his feet as he left, and I pushed his face with my hand. He says he wants a divorce because we do not click and due to the verbal abuse as well as making him leave the home. I dont treat anyone else like this and I dont know why I mistreat him. It is something about him that makes me act out. I know it is immature and mean.
I think our 2 month marriage is over and I dont know what to do. He says he wants a divorce and he stopped answering the phone yesterday. I have no intention of calling him back. Maybe he is right. I guess I just want to hear your thoughts if you have experience with this type of situation. Please help.