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My husband began taking Paxil (40mg) several months ago and I have noticed a marked change in his personality, for the worse. He cannot recognize it and says I am the only reason why we can't get along and says i am the one who needs to see a counselor after asking him if he would go to marriage counseling together to try an work through this. He refuses to go with me and becomes belligerent about it. Normally he is a very low-key, laid back person.
He has even accused me twice now of cheating on him, which couldn't be farther from the truth. I don't even have any male friends and i work from home, so I rarely even meet new people. I have no idea where he is getting this idea from but he clings to it viciously. He refuses to talk about our relationship, just repeatedly says "i don't care". We have been together for almost 10 years and NEVER has he been like this. He has been avoiding me completely, not talking or even acknowledging I am in the house. He just comes home and locks himself in his office for the night. We can't even sleep in the same bed together anymore. I could go on and one, but you get the picture.
My question is, could it be the Paxil?? He has shut out all his friends and me, just goes to work and then spends the rest of the time on his computer until bedtime. which by the way has been a huge source of stress for him due to an overbearing and demeaning boss. I know he has been unable to confront him on any level for fear of losing his job. I feel like all that frustration comes home with him and he directs it at me.
I am wondering if i should schedule an appointment with his doctor to talk to her about it in private. If he found out i did this, however, it would send him over the edge i am afraid. He has also mentioned "he hopes he dies soon", and after reading the side effects of suicidal thoughts, naturally i am very worried. I just don't know what to do because he refuses any kind of cooperation. I really feel he needs to see a psychiatrist to talk about his issues in addition to the medication. He is also taking a pill similar to Xanax, although i don't think it is that one, but it is something else for his anxiety disorder. On top of that he will occasionally get drunk to the point of passing out in his bathroom in his own vomit. He is unable to drink casually on any level, instead he drinks to the point of oblivion.
I really need advice because i feel like he is a ticking time bomb. Anyone else have a similar experience with some advice? Please help, don't really know where to turn.
He has even accused me twice now of cheating on him, which couldn't be farther from the truth. I don't even have any male friends and i work from home, so I rarely even meet new people. I have no idea where he is getting this idea from but he clings to it viciously. He refuses to talk about our relationship, just repeatedly says "i don't care". We have been together for almost 10 years and NEVER has he been like this. He has been avoiding me completely, not talking or even acknowledging I am in the house. He just comes home and locks himself in his office for the night. We can't even sleep in the same bed together anymore. I could go on and one, but you get the picture.
My question is, could it be the Paxil?? He has shut out all his friends and me, just goes to work and then spends the rest of the time on his computer until bedtime. which by the way has been a huge source of stress for him due to an overbearing and demeaning boss. I know he has been unable to confront him on any level for fear of losing his job. I feel like all that frustration comes home with him and he directs it at me.
I am wondering if i should schedule an appointment with his doctor to talk to her about it in private. If he found out i did this, however, it would send him over the edge i am afraid. He has also mentioned "he hopes he dies soon", and after reading the side effects of suicidal thoughts, naturally i am very worried. I just don't know what to do because he refuses any kind of cooperation. I really feel he needs to see a psychiatrist to talk about his issues in addition to the medication. He is also taking a pill similar to Xanax, although i don't think it is that one, but it is something else for his anxiety disorder. On top of that he will occasionally get drunk to the point of passing out in his bathroom in his own vomit. He is unable to drink casually on any level, instead he drinks to the point of oblivion.
I really need advice because i feel like he is a ticking time bomb. Anyone else have a similar experience with some advice? Please help, don't really know where to turn.