[the guy]

GET A VAR ASAP!!!!!!!!

Sorry for shouting,but by far this tool is the most effective way to confirm your wife loyality. So please stop getting emotionally ripped off and do the investigation that will confirms your wife commitment to the marriage.

Do this investigation quitely, b/c if she is doing you wrong she will lie about it so she "doesn't hurt you".

Thats the thing here all the newbie think they now there spouse so well but when it come to affairs it is a big time game changer and deniel is a bug part of masking the pain of the unthinkable.

So please guitely do your own investigation so that you can protect your self from continuely getting emotioanaly ripped off.

The more information you have the better the confrontation will be. Keep in mind she was almost caught so she will cool it down, but like any addiction she will not beable to stay away.

I suggest you find out as much as you can about the OM (other man) if he has a GF or wife then exposure will help make this affair inconvienent to continue.


The name of the game *next* is getting OM out of the picture and validating a no contact.

#1) gather undeniable proof and knowledge of affair partner
#2) expose affair to OMW
#3) confront WW calmly with confidence and no begging for the marraige.

 

[the guy]

The cequence between #2) and #3) are conflicting for some at TAM b/c often the betrayed is scared of making things worse and pushing the wayward furture away.

The point to this sequence is to 1) make the affair as inconvienent and as uncomfortable as possible and 2) push the wayward away. See your wife will come back at you with " how could you" and " i would have worked things out" Your response after getting a bunch of crap from your wayward is " what makes you think I want you right now".

See its this confidence the betrayed must have to chnage the balance of power towards the betrayed. The wayward is already gone at this point...IMHO.


After exposing to OMW she should be on her knees begging you not to tell any one else, like her kids and/or her mom and/or dad.

But the reality is the betrayed are so weak its easy for the balance of power to favor the wayward.


HAPPY EASTER EVERYBODY