I've been married for 15 years. I have 3 beautiful children. My wife and I hardly speak anymore...The last time we had sex was in November...This has been going on for 8 or 9 years....She has no ambition/drive to do anything....She stayed home for almost 3 years with our last child and recently went back to work after considerable coaxing from myself to the point that I got her a job at a local pharmacy....I'm not happy and I haven't been for years. I want my children to grow up happy and adjusted. I think that's the main reason I have just gone on with the way things are. How does someone know it's time to get a divorce? How do I do this without hurting my children and without hurting my wife? I care about her but I want to be happy and she does not make me happy and it's obvious to me I don't make her happy. Any insight would be appreciated.