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After about 4 years of marriage, my relationship with my husband turned into nothing but simply roommates relationship. Each one of us is busy with his own life that must actually be shared because of marriage but it isn't.
We don't talk much, we do not act like a couple and i feel that the only thing that's keeping us together a piece of paper and a child.

We barely even kiss and the sex you could say is dead and when i told a friend about this she told me to put viagra in his tea lol i didn't because i don't know i don't really trust viagra because of its negative side effects. No matter how hard i try to revive this dead life it just doesn't go the way i plan for it to.

I tried to talk to him about this whole this, about us, but it felt as if i was talking to a wall really. He just sighs, nods, says he'd do his best to change this but doesn't or just look at me as i waste my time talking.
I'm so fed up you know i'm closer to the edge, i love him and i don't want to lose him, i don't want our family to fall apart.
Do you think that i'm doing something wrong? What do you think i should do about it?
 

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I definitely sympathize with you. My 25 year marriage recently came to an end for the very same reasons, and I used the same term: "roommates." Fortunately we remain great friends, but it became clear that we had spent many years forcing a marriage onto what was just a very good friendship.
 

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Instead of telling him your disappointments ask him how he is feeling.


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This.

Ask him what you do that leads to him not wanting to be close to you.

Better yet get His Needs, Her Needs and take the Love Buster questionnaire.
 

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That's why there is a thing called divorce. You can only take being roommates, if that, for so long before you look for intimacy from someone else. Unless you're asexual. When I had roommates back in college, we had a blast. Tons of fun. The last 4 years of my marriage weren't anything fun. Misery. When people say say roommates, I laugh.

No such thing as soul mates. No shame in divorce. One life. Don't waste another day.
 

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Don't just blame him but ask him why he's so cold about this whole situtation listen to what he thinks about your relationship and tell him that if that will continue youll leave like threaten him
 

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After about 4 years of marriage, my relationship with my husband turned into nothing but simply roommates relationship. Each one of us is busy with his own life that must actually be shared because of marriage but it isn't.
We don't talk much, we do not act like a couple and i feel that the only thing that's keeping us together a piece of paper and a child.

We barely even kiss and the sex you could say is dead and when i told a friend about this she told me to put viagra in his tea lol i didn't because i don't know i don't really trust viagra because of its negative side effects. No matter how hard i try to revive this dead life it just doesn't go the way i plan for it to.

I tried to talk to him about this whole this, about us, but it felt as if i was talking to a wall really. He just sighs, nods, says he'd do his best to change this but doesn't or just look at me as i waste my time talking.
I'm so fed up you know i'm closer to the edge, i love him and i don't want to lose him, i don't want our family to fall apart.
Do you think that i'm doing something wrong? What do you think i should do about it?
On the positive side, he is saying he wants to change for you! Perhaps he just doesn't know what you really want?

Have you tried both making a list of 5 things you want out of the relationship? Do it together. It boils down to you having to be able to communicate. Start small and see if you can kindle something from there.
 
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