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Hi!
Here's my story. You'll have to excuse my English, as French in my first language, Merci!
I'm 32, father of 2 beautiful little girls, they're 2 and 4 years old. I've been married for 5 years now and we been together for 8 years.
Our couple is not in its best shape, we were distant for the last year or so because of my wife's strong attitude that I've been dealing with. Even her family and close friends are having difficulties with it. I won't go too much in details here, but it's something she's has been working on. The lack of affection both physical and emotional. Her job take a lot of space. She's often stress out for little things that even her sometimes doesn't understand. And when she's pissed off against someone or something she can go days without talking to anyone... This is what I find to more difficult. I've told her several time in the past, how it affected me, she tried to change but this is who she is, you can't change someone, they can only try to make it better. I got tired and told her that I wasn't able to live like that anymore, that my feelings for her were different. I left the house for 5 days, it was rough. I then decided to give ourselves a chance. Family is really important to me, especially my daughters that I love so much!
I'll make this next part short as it could easily be a 100 pages story!
2 months ½ ago, I met a girl and we both saw sparks! I can't get her off my head, I have strong feelings for her. Same thing for her, all she does is to think about me and wants to be with me. I feel we would be happy together. I day dream about her, about what we could become together. She knows I'm married, that I have 2 little girls, she's very respectful about my status and I thank her for that. We never kissed or slept together, we only had a really big hug. We tried to stop communicating, it just got worst, I barely became sick as I was missing her too much, she also said the same. We both dropped tears thinking we might never be able to be together. "Sometimes life's just not fair..."
I'm scared of making the move, to have to see my 2 girls only half the time and how it will affect them. My feelings for my wife are now like to one you have for a really good friend, it has been like that for the past year or so. We went to couple counseling... didn't really help. I'm currently seeing a personal counselor, I find that they don't really help, they listen and make me talk, no guide, tips or good advice.
I've been praying day and night, asking for guidance and strength and to make me do the right choice.
Is there anyone out there that lived a similar situation that would be able to help me?
I thank you for taking your time to read me!
Here's my story. You'll have to excuse my English, as French in my first language, Merci!
I'm 32, father of 2 beautiful little girls, they're 2 and 4 years old. I've been married for 5 years now and we been together for 8 years.
Our couple is not in its best shape, we were distant for the last year or so because of my wife's strong attitude that I've been dealing with. Even her family and close friends are having difficulties with it. I won't go too much in details here, but it's something she's has been working on. The lack of affection both physical and emotional. Her job take a lot of space. She's often stress out for little things that even her sometimes doesn't understand. And when she's pissed off against someone or something she can go days without talking to anyone... This is what I find to more difficult. I've told her several time in the past, how it affected me, she tried to change but this is who she is, you can't change someone, they can only try to make it better. I got tired and told her that I wasn't able to live like that anymore, that my feelings for her were different. I left the house for 5 days, it was rough. I then decided to give ourselves a chance. Family is really important to me, especially my daughters that I love so much!
I'll make this next part short as it could easily be a 100 pages story!
2 months ½ ago, I met a girl and we both saw sparks! I can't get her off my head, I have strong feelings for her. Same thing for her, all she does is to think about me and wants to be with me. I feel we would be happy together. I day dream about her, about what we could become together. She knows I'm married, that I have 2 little girls, she's very respectful about my status and I thank her for that. We never kissed or slept together, we only had a really big hug. We tried to stop communicating, it just got worst, I barely became sick as I was missing her too much, she also said the same. We both dropped tears thinking we might never be able to be together. "Sometimes life's just not fair..."
I'm scared of making the move, to have to see my 2 girls only half the time and how it will affect them. My feelings for my wife are now like to one you have for a really good friend, it has been like that for the past year or so. We went to couple counseling... didn't really help. I'm currently seeing a personal counselor, I find that they don't really help, they listen and make me talk, no guide, tips or good advice.
I've been praying day and night, asking for guidance and strength and to make me do the right choice.
Is there anyone out there that lived a similar situation that would be able to help me?
I thank you for taking your time to read me!