Quote by Caribbean Man
So lets see....
Suppose , some time later ,the OP's husband found out by accident , that she did have a brief affair.
What should the OP do?
Deny that she ever had an affair because God forgave her?
Suppose one night as they were lying in bed , having a soul searching conversation , her husband asked her if she was ever unfaithful to him?
What should she say?
No?
She could say:
Lets leave my past in the past and your past in the past
I don’t want to bring up your sexual thoughts and actions for the last 20 years nor mine.
Lets talk about how I am doing now and for the last several years
What can I do to make your life better?
I would like to think that reconciliation involves full disclosure?
You are assuming that full disclosure always brings reconciliation---not true
I would like to think that if they are reconciling their differences, that her husband could find it in his heart to FORGIVE her ?
Your word of “THINK” and question mark? At the end of your sentence says a lot.
I would like to think that part of taking responsibility for one's actions is acknowledging where they went wrong , and apologizing to those we may have wronged.
Taking responsibility also includes turning from your ways 180 degrees and taking actions to make things better. She has done that
Have you taken responsibility for all your sexual actions in the past and apologized to all you have wronged?
OP, my advice would be to find an appropriate time and place, tell your husband.. He WILL forgive you.
In the end it will make your marriage stronger.
You are making strong definite statements that you can not guarantee.
Are you going to take the responsibility and take the fall out if he does not forgive?
Are you going to explain to the children and grandchildren why they should just get over the fact that mom and grandma betrayed the family?
In a perfect world where all people ARE SO STRONG that strong love dominates over all; your advice is right on!
This is not a perfect world and strong love does not dominate.
Sometimes you have to make the decisions that have the best chance of keeping a family together.