It seems like you have been living with this uncertainty for a long time and it still bothers you. Are you still with him? Can you ask him about this?
Yes, I joined TAM in 2010, because i thought he was having an affair and even though i have not found anything at all. I still have the feeling.Why is this keeping you up at night now, when you already suspected an affair way back then? Do you think he's stepping out on your relationship today?
I think you are absolutely right. I think he had an affair also. Our current relationship is crap. I also think that he is currently having one as well.. Things have not been good since 2009.What do I think? I think your husband might have had an affair 12 or 13 years ago, but you'll never find out the truth. You need to figure out what that means to you, based on your current relationship with him.
I left for a couple of months earlier this year and stupid me I came back. He did and said all the right things. I went against my better judgement. Now it is the same old song and dance again. I know i need to leave, but it is easier said then done. I will eventually, but i need to get my own **** in order. I need to get a job, which has been really hard. That is the first step.Our relationship as of right now is not good and hasn't been for quite a while.
at a certain trajectory in a marriage
it really doesn't matter how marital difficulties manifest
and proving infidelity becomes a red herring
you're in a bad marriage, in your own words, 'not good'
and so, one point of view is
how long will you stay in a dysfunctional house
searching for evidence of dysfunction