I've got 2 children with my husband. I really want to be with him and raise our family together. I really don't feel like a wife, I feel like a slave and I'm tired of it. I have tried talking to him but he gets mad and starts saying I'm always on my computer or something just to get the attention off of him. My husband expects me to keep the house clean, take care of two children, keep the laundry washed (including his uniforms), keep the animals from stinking, make a perfect meal every time I cook, bring him his food and drinks, etc. He want me to do it all. He works 3 days a week as a security guard. Which he gets the sit down the work shift. He does do paperwork and check on other guards 1 out of 3 days. The other days he gets to sit down and push a button to open a gate all day. Not to mention when he is on top of the mountain, he watches youtube, play internet games, ect. while at work. If he loses something, most of the time his reactions are: "you all better quit taking my ****", or "what did you do with ____?", etc. He always blames us. When he is at home, he sits down and plays games all day on his computer. He throws his trash in the floor and stacks his dishes all over the couch/side table, and then blames me when the house gets dirty. When I clean, I pile up the trash bags in the room that leads to the carport, my husband will not take them off until the side of the room is overfilled with bags or until we can't walk in there anymore. We always get maggots on our bags and then he gets mad and says it's my fault for piling up trash bags. If I don't clean the house he says it is my fault the house is dirty and that I'm nasty for wanting to live in it. He also has said that it isn't his job to help me take care of the kids until I prove to him that they are his, but continues to keep mad when people tell him they look like me instead of him. According to him, this is all my job because I'm a stay at home mom and he is the one with the actual job. I really want to stay with him and I love him but I am unhappy with the way I am getting treated. Any tips or ideas on how to help me get him to understand and help out before I pack up and leave.