background: My fiance and I have been together since highschool, we got engaged last year and we have our first baby comming in less than 3 months
5 months ago she went away for job training that lasted 6 weeks, we saw eachother only on weekends. Usually we are "cuddly" and affectionate torwards each other but when she was done with training I notice minor changes. We didn't have sex for 3 weeks. ( which was unusual for us ) and we seemed distant from each other. I asked her what was wrong and she told me she felt that our relationship had gotten boring and she felt more independent now. I expressed that I thought we needed more time together to let our relationship "re-align" since we had been away from eachother.
A couple more weeks pass and things seem to be getting worse. I noticed that she had been on her phone alot talking to one of the girls from her training, later I found out this girl is a lesbian. Well things progressed to the point where she was traveling 4 hours to see this girl virtualy every weekend. So very calmly i asked her if she was a lesbian and if she had fallen in love with this girl. She laughed and said no. A week later she comes home from the girl's house and tells me she doesnt know if shes gay or not.. shes just has a curiousity about the situation. I already knew something was going on at this point. We talked more and she claimed that she doesnt have any sexual interest in girls but she did find her friend attractive. she also let me know about a secret relationship she had with a girl in highschool (non-sexual)
2 weeks ago we decided to take a break becuase I wanted her to fufill this curiosity and focus on things before the baby gets here. I told her if she got in the situation were her emotions told her to sleep with this girl then do it.
Throughout the entire situation ive been extremely understanding but its been starting to get to me lately.
We talk daily and she says she loves me and cant see a future without me but I still see evidence of her interacting with her friend in ways that could be seen as flirtacious.
whenever I bring up the possibility of her being gay she says "thats stupid" or "this is embarrasing, Im not gay."
and now with the baby only a few months away I have alot of concerns about our future. Id like to see my child every day but I dont want to move back into our house if she has feelings for someone else. I guess I feel like im proctecting myself from getting hurt but at the same time I feel like I got the short end of the stick because she pressured me into having a child. What do I do???!?!
5 months ago she went away for job training that lasted 6 weeks, we saw eachother only on weekends. Usually we are "cuddly" and affectionate torwards each other but when she was done with training I notice minor changes. We didn't have sex for 3 weeks. ( which was unusual for us ) and we seemed distant from each other. I asked her what was wrong and she told me she felt that our relationship had gotten boring and she felt more independent now. I expressed that I thought we needed more time together to let our relationship "re-align" since we had been away from eachother.
A couple more weeks pass and things seem to be getting worse. I noticed that she had been on her phone alot talking to one of the girls from her training, later I found out this girl is a lesbian. Well things progressed to the point where she was traveling 4 hours to see this girl virtualy every weekend. So very calmly i asked her if she was a lesbian and if she had fallen in love with this girl. She laughed and said no. A week later she comes home from the girl's house and tells me she doesnt know if shes gay or not.. shes just has a curiousity about the situation. I already knew something was going on at this point. We talked more and she claimed that she doesnt have any sexual interest in girls but she did find her friend attractive. she also let me know about a secret relationship she had with a girl in highschool (non-sexual)
2 weeks ago we decided to take a break becuase I wanted her to fufill this curiosity and focus on things before the baby gets here. I told her if she got in the situation were her emotions told her to sleep with this girl then do it.
Throughout the entire situation ive been extremely understanding but its been starting to get to me lately.
We talk daily and she says she loves me and cant see a future without me but I still see evidence of her interacting with her friend in ways that could be seen as flirtacious.
whenever I bring up the possibility of her being gay she says "thats stupid" or "this is embarrasing, Im not gay."
and now with the baby only a few months away I have alot of concerns about our future. Id like to see my child every day but I dont want to move back into our house if she has feelings for someone else. I guess I feel like im proctecting myself from getting hurt but at the same time I feel like I got the short end of the stick because she pressured me into having a child. What do I do???!?!