I am feeling so lonely, sad and frustrated! I do not get any attention from my husband at all. Never a touch a hug a kiss nor sex. I am craving at this point for a man to hold me and to want me. We have been married for 11 years and we have been together 13 years and have 3 kids together. He is older than me I am 35 and he is 43. Sex in the beginning was good but not the best I have had. Over time it has diminished. He could go 3 months without it. I would prefer to have it at LEAST once a week. We have both gained weight since we met. But I am still very attracted to him. I have recently lost a lot of weight and still feel like I am pretty attractive. Other men still hit on me (I look very young for my age). When we do have sex once every 3 months it is a quick and he does not last and he is not that hard. If we happen to have sex twice in a month which is rare he is pretty soft and limp. He keeps telling me its not me and he is very attracted to me. He says he is the one with a problem. He said in his mind he is very horny just cant fully get it up. I just feel like for some reason lately I want it all the time! I am tired of trying because when I do he shuts me down. I feel like inside I am ready to explode because I need him so bad. I recently have been having dreams that feel so real of having sex with other guys . Is that normal? I have never cheated on him nor has he cheated on me. He is a real heavy drinker he drinks anywhere between 12-24 beers everyday. I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I am getting jipped and need it so bad more now than ever before. He did get his levels checked. He is in the normal range but at the really low end of the normal range. I have tried to talk to him about it. I just don't know what to do. It is not a good feeling not to be wanted. Any opinions? Am I screwed with the rest of my life without sex? I always thought men always needed sex and wanted sex. Boy was I wrong lol.