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A language class? If you like socialising, it’s a great way to meet people from a different culture, you’ll meet a whole new group of friends, a bit of homework here and there to do in the evenings too.
I was thinking about picking up a language again. I grew up in Germany so I was thinking about learning that to fluency. I'd disregarded it as it didn't meet the social aspect, but maybe a class is possible.
 

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Bike riding or kayaking? I guess you're away from home too much to have a dog which is what you really need to feel that void and have something to get you out of the house. But you're way too many hours for that.

Have you considered volunteer work at something that sounds fun to you like working with animals or an animal rescue? I'm sure more work doesn't seem appealing because I know when you work that much you do probably just need to rest. I worked two jobs the most of my life. How about just going out to a nice restaurant? I know some people don't like to eat alone but I have done it ever since I was young and it just doesn't bother me a bit. You could also see if you can get into reading. If you learn to like reading and opens up a whole world.
Sadly yes, I am away from home too much for a dog. And I had to leave my cats behind when I left as I could not take them to rented accommodation with me:cry: (I left my husband in our nice big house since he has a child and it was less disruptive for me to be the one to move out.). I did post on a local group last night if anyone would like help with dog walking. I am an animal lover so maybe volunteering could work.

I do love reading, but tend to find I don't create so much time for it anymore. I do eat alone at restaurants when I have to travel with work (something that's not happened since the pandemic) but not sure I could do it on my own without that excuse.

There's some great ideas here though.
 

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What interests you?

My knee-jerk thought was get a guitar and teach yourself to play. Hours can go by when learning an instrument, and it both engages and relaxes the mind. Tutorials on youtube. Although that's a solo activity so it depends on if if it's more about meeting others.
I love music and I used to play the keyboard and piano when I was younger before multiple jobs and studying became my way of life. I could look into that again, thank you
 

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There are virtual meetups on meetup.com that you can take advantage of when you have the time. I too have missed events due to last minute work “emergencies” as a project manager.
I find that with these groups, you can miss an event or meeting and nobody takes it personally.
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That's an interesting article. Unfortunately I find I'm less healthy on my own - that's part of the reason for my post. Although this week I've been working hard on my nutrition and I've been cooking and eating really well and breaking some bad habits. :giggle:
 

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I did post on a local group last night if anyone would like help with dog walking. I am an animal lover so maybe volunteering could work.
Be careful about any possible liabilities. All the dog walkers around here have dog walker insurance (yeah, that's a thing) to protect against general liability, animal bailee, and their business if applicable. Last thing you want is a dog biting someone, being attacked or hit by a car, etc.
 

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Hey, I know how tough it when you hold a responsible position in a 24/7 operation. My go to hobby is modern boardgames, there is a group in literally every town in the UK. There are meet ups where people bring games. You play for an evening while chatting and getting to know people.

I travel for work on occasion and always meet up with the local group wherever I go. It really is a very welcoming hobby and scratches the itch for something cerebral and social
 

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I was thinking about picking up a language again. I grew up in Germany so I was thinking about learning that to fluency. I'd disregarded it as it didn't meet the social aspect, but maybe a class is possible.
Look for a meetup or similar group for your chosen foreign language. I'm in a fairly rural area, but even we have a local group that gets together once or twice a month and does a German-speaking dinner, activity, or get together. Some are native speakers, others are fairly new at the language. But it's a great way to practice your language skills, gain fluency, and have fun with nice people in a language-emersion experience.

Manning a tandem kayak down a canal with someone you haven't paddled with before, when you can only speak German but are not nearly fluent, is a super entertaining experience! :oops::LOL:
 

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Be careful about any possible liabilities. All the dog walkers around here have dog walker insurance (yeah, that's a thing) to protect against general liability, animal bailee, and their business if applicable. Last thing you want is a dog biting someone, being attacked or hit by a car, etc.
Valid point. I just want a walk, not a lawsuit 😆
 

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Look for a meetup or similar group for your chosen foreign language. I'm in a fairly rural area, but even we have a local group that gets together once or twice a month and does a German-speaking dinner, activity, or get together. Some are native speakers, others are fairly new at the language. But it's a great way to practice your language skills, gain fluency, and have fun with nice people in a language-emersion experience.

Manning a tandem kayak down a canal with someone you haven't paddled with before, when you can only speak German but are not nearly fluent, is a super entertaining experience! :oops::LOL:
Hahahaha, that does sound entertaining. Hopefully, as the UK is finally lifting some of the restrictions these sorts of things will start to be available. Many group meetings haven't been happening as they haven't been allowed in 15 months.
 

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Golf, golf, and more golf!! It is a game that you will hate to love, igniting the passion to forever chase the next great shot! I just can't get enough of chasing that little white ball around the course and I'm insane for it.
 

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Unfortunately I am Plant Manager for a 24/7 manufacturing operation. My work can't fit neatly into schedules. This is why I never stuck to things before. I can't simply pick it up later in the evening sadly. So it need to be something flexible.
My suggestion is a hobby that you can do anytime of day or night and at a moment's notice. Walking would fit, running would fit, dumb bells would work, as would aerobics.

What helped me was being able to go to a gym (pre-Covid and now they are opening again) before work. The best work exercise situation I had was when the gym was in the basement of the building I worked in. The only equipment it had were step aerobic boxes and some elastic stretching straps, so the set up cost was very low. We also hired a professional fitness instructor to lead the class. If I had to prep for a meeting, I could skip a day or two. What really helped was getting involved in a group step aerobics class, as It felt like I was part of a social group. At a local city festival, they had a dance competition and as a group we entered and did our step aerobics without the boxes to step on, as a synchronized dance group. We didn't win, but we did place to everyone's pride and amusement.

Not sure about your company, but if you are a Plant Manager, could you speak to your Plan HR person and ask them about starting some kind of daily group exercise class in say a break room or conference room? Most companies understand that adding exercise associated with work can improve both health and morale and lower medical insurance and sick leave costs. As a Plant Manager you could both help yourself and you could inspire your employees by leading through example. That pressure of leading through example could help you stick to the exercise program.

If it scares you that you might get trapped. Make sure that it is a pilot program or experiment for a fixed term (say 3 months, 6 months or a year) and have HR do survey's during the pilot program to measure opinions as well as collecting data on participants job performance and absenteeism. Have them evaluate it to see if it is a positive thing or not. Make it clear that you will be the sponsor only for the initial period of the program and that someone else from the firm will need to become the sponsor or host of the program for future periods. That way you can exit if you don't like it. Tai Chi could be another healthy alternative. Maybe get HR to come up with a list of things that people might want to try.

The point is find something for yourself. Other people you know probably feel the same. If you are in a position of authority try to figure out a way to help others who might be in a similar situation.

If your company is not into it or you aren't, then figure out something that maybe you or your friends might enjoy. One thing that my wife and I enjoy is going out once a week to do wine tasting limiting ourselves to just say 4 or 5 small glasses of wine. If you get say 6 friends then you probably have enough to open 4 to 5 bottles at the same time and sample each. If there are any open bottles left over, then allow people to take one home with them. Each week, like a book club have a selected theme. Say one week have someone select 4 or 5 90+ point Merlot wines, then the next week say Cab-Franc, then Pinot Noir, then Malbec, then....... Make sure everyone takes notes and declare the first and second place wines by popularity at each tasting. Then after a few months, create a couple "best of" tastings where you compare the most popular of different types of wines against each other. Again have everyone record their preferences. It is actually a lot of fun. My wife has found that her taste for wine has evolved over the past couple of years and she now likes some wines she use to hate (Syrah). Of course she says her tastes haven't changed, it is just that we have found wine makers who do a better job with that type of grape.

Good luck.
 

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I love music and I used to play the keyboard and piano when I was younger before multiple jobs and studying became my way of life. I could look into that again, thank you
I think looking back to childhood interests can be a way to spark adult hobbies. Think of the things that made you happy as a child and try to find a way to translate that into your current life. I loved rocks as a child. As an adult, I find it fascinating to go to rock/mineral/gem shows, and a simple comment to another rock hound can start some casual friendships of like-minded souls. Or it could be translated into collecting gemstones or making jewelry. The world is full of interesting things! And the more interests one has, the more interesting one is.
 

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Hi,

I don't really have any hobbies. In my 20's I worked 1 FT and 2x PT jobs and I was studying to become an accountant - there wasn't really time for any hobbies.
In my 30's, I was promoted to a demanding job. I also got married. Every time I tried to take up a hobby, I failed as there would be some work reason I couldn't attend scheduled classes. When I did have free time, I'd usually spend it socialising. In the absence of anything else, I'd open a bottle of wine and sit and chat. This became too frequent
I am now going through a divorce and living alone. I still have a very demanding job, but I do have some free time, I just can't commit to a schedule / classes since I cannot guarantee getting out of work regularly. As a result, I've found myself slipping back into opening a bottle of wine after work. I'd like to do different but I don't know what. I live away from any family or friends and I don't know anyone locally either.

In the past I've tried running but really, I've never got the buzz from sports that others seem to. Being an asthmatic smoker probably doesn't help 😆 I'm not massively into TV, I'll occasionally watch something. I've tried doing yoga at home but I don't have a space to do it - I also don't really enjoy it.

I'm a social person, which is why I guess mostly I end up opening a bottle and chatting to friends. I also enjoy online gaming, but that's just the same. But I would like to try to find something else to fill some of that time and create a better balance - something healthier! How do I fill 3+ hours in an evening without resorting to what I know to stop me feeling lonely?

Has anyone else had a similar experience and found a way to do something different? Any advice is appreciated.

Thanks
Angela
I love jigsaw puzzles.
You can take as long as you want to do them and you can fit them into your schedule anytime you want.
However, since you're a social person, might I suggest an evening class of interest? They are often free or for very low cost.
 
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