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I don't really have any hobbies. In my 20's I worked 1 FT and 2x PT jobs and I was studying to become an accountant - there wasn't really time for any hobbies.
In my 30's, I was promoted to a demanding job. I also got married. Every time I tried to take up a hobby, I failed as there would be some work reason I couldn't attend scheduled classes. When I did have free time, I'd usually spend it socialising. In the absence of anything else, I'd open a bottle of wine and sit and chat. This became too frequent
I am now going through a divorce and living alone. I still have a very demanding job, but I do have some free time, I just can't commit to a schedule / classes since I cannot guarantee getting out of work regularly. As a result, I've found myself slipping back into opening a bottle of wine after work. I'd like to do different but I don't know what. I live away from any family or friends and I don't know anyone locally either.

In the past I've tried running but really, I've never got the buzz from sports that others seem to. Being an asthmatic smoker probably doesn't help 馃槅 I'm not massively into TV, I'll occasionally watch something. I've tried doing yoga at home but I don't have a space to do it - I also don't really enjoy it.

I'm a social person, which is why I guess mostly I end up opening a bottle and chatting to friends. I also enjoy online gaming, but that's just the same. But I would like to try to find something else to fill some of that time and create a better balance - something healthier! How do I fill 3+ hours in an evening without resorting to what I know to stop me feeling lonely?

Has anyone else had a similar experience and found a way to do something different? Any advice is appreciated.

Thanks
Angela
 

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In my opinion, you will have to do something you enjoy. It may not be what some would call a typical hobby, but it usually doesn鈥檛 work to push yourself into something just to fill a void.
find what you enjoy even if it鈥檚 not exciting to others or something that can be discussed with excitement. Find what you enjoy and do it.
 

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Try making the time to attend the classes. I know when I have an after work event like a class I make more of an effort to be efficient to get out on time. When I can't, I take the work home & do it after the class. You need stuff to balance work for your mental health.

Since you do like wine, consider learning more about it.
Unfortunately I am Plant Manager for a 24/7 manufacturing operation. My work can't fit neatly into schedules. This is why I never stuck to things before. I can't simply pick it up later in the evening sadly. So it need to be something flexible.
 

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Reading. Needlework or quilting. Fashion design and clothes making. Historical re-enacting. Volunteering with a civic group, food pantry, historic preservation society, garden club, church or youth group. Cooking or baking. Perfumery. Soap making or candle making. Art - oils, watercolors, charcoals, pencil sketches, pottery, etc.. Making hats or fascinators. Collecting - anything from salt & pepper shakers to books to ironstone or anything else you can imagine and afford.

A hobby need not really involve taking any classes at all. Just start doing something you enjoy and keep doing it. Boom! Hobby.
 

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There are virtual meetups on meetup.com that you can take advantage of when you have the time. I too have missed events due to last minute work 鈥渆mergencies鈥 as a project manager.
I find that with these groups, you can miss an event or meeting and nobody takes it personally.
I鈥檓 sorry your marriage didn鈥檛 work out, but you may be healthier for it. Studies are starting to show that marriage benefits men while taking a toll on women. Women Who Stay Single or Get Divorced Are Healthiest
 

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Hi,

I don't really have any hobbies. In my 20's I worked 1 FT and 2x PT jobs and I was studying to become an accountant - there wasn't really time for any hobbies.
In my 30's, I was promoted to a demanding job. I also got married. Every time I tried to take up a hobby, I failed as there would be some work reason I couldn't attend scheduled classes. When I did have free time, I'd usually spend it socialising. In the absence of anything else, I'd open a bottle of wine and sit and chat. This became too frequent
I am now going through a divorce and living alone. I still have a very demanding job, but I do have some free time, I just can't commit to a schedule / classes since I cannot guarantee getting out of work regularly. As a result, I've found myself slipping back into opening a bottle of wine after work. I'd like to do different but I don't know what. I live away from any family or friends and I don't know anyone locally either.

In the past I've tried running but really, I've never got the buzz from sports that others seem to. Being an asthmatic smoker probably doesn't help 馃槅 I'm not massively into TV, I'll occasionally watch something. I've tried doing yoga at home but I don't have a space to do it - I also don't really enjoy it.

I'm a social person, which is why I guess mostly I end up opening a bottle and chatting to friends. I also enjoy online gaming, but that's just the same. But I would like to try to find something else to fill some of that time and create a better balance - something healthier! How do I fill 3+ hours in an evening without resorting to what I know to stop me feeling lonely?

Has anyone else had a similar experience and found a way to do something different? Any advice is appreciated.

Thanks
Angela
Bike riding or kayaking? I guess you're away from home too much to have a dog which is what you really need to feel that void and have something to get you out of the house. But you're way too many hours for that.

Have you considered volunteer work at something that sounds fun to you like working with animals or an animal rescue? I'm sure more work doesn't seem appealing because I know when you work that much you do probably just need to rest. I worked two jobs the most of my life. How about just going out to a nice restaurant? I know some people don't like to eat alone but I have done it ever since I was young and it just doesn't bother me a bit. You could also see if you can get into reading. If you learn to like reading and opens up a whole world.
 
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Avid reader here. Started gardening after the pandemic started and I love it! I eat all the greens I grow and they are pretty much for free now. I'm a plant based eater, so grocery bills are dirt cheap now! Win, win for me.

Sewing (sigh),... I used to love as my first degree was fashion merchandising and design. I can sew and make my own patterns. At my age, my eyes are tired as is my back and everything else. At 56, sewing was just too hard on my back and sitting for hours was not good either. I still love designing and making my own clothes. No one wears what I wear! It's really nice to be that unique in the fashion industry.
 

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What interests you?

My knee-jerk thought was get a guitar and teach yourself to play. Hours can go by when learning an instrument, and it both engages and relaxes the mind. Tutorials on youtube. Although that's a solo activity so it depends on if if it's more about meeting others.
 
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