Hope you guys dont mind me chiming in...I too am going through the same thing,my D is final though and going through the what we had was the settlement in court,in all honesty i did not look at her,but i remember she just cried through the whole thing,deep inside i wanted to go over,give a big hug and tell her i am here for her,we'll get through this together,you know the overwhelming feeling took over,and the flip side was to jump over my lawyer,reach my hands around her neck and rip her head off,the switching of emotions that day was incredible,and i still have not let that go,i still feel the love,the caring,the best friend thing toward her,and then the flip side,i want to destroy her very being,the anger,the pain,what she put me through.
I think eventually we will all get over it,we will all move on,try to do this,shake it off,think about yourself,be yourself for once,easier said than done,yes,i live through it everyday.