[EleGirl]

Yes I have a court order that give me weekends and alternating holidays. She went into court and was able to have Christmas changed without my knowledge, until I got a copy of the order from her attorney.

Can you get a second job to pay for an attorney? There should be no way that they can go to court without you knowing about it.

Also look for father's groups in your area. There might be an attorney who does low cost for pro bono work.